Do you think you might be in a female led relationship because you find yourself taking control of the relationship you're in?
Perhaps you want to know how you can make sure you end up in a female led relationship? Or maybe you're simply curious about these kind of relationships and want to find out more?
If you feel that you resonate with any of these questions, then you are in the right place. These types of relationships are becoming increasingly popular and can be extremely sexy, so it's definitely worth knowing about them.
In this article, we are going to take a good look into what a female led relationship is, why more people are starting to want to be in a female led relationship, the ups and downs of these types of relationships and the rules you need to follow to maintain a successful female led relationship. I'm here to share a tell-it-all, unsexy guide to a sexy concept.
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The female led relationship is a relatively new concept, since it's only in relatively recent history that women have been allowed to work, be treated equally and live independent lives. There isn't really one definitive definition of what a female led relationship (FLR) is, and there are many different types that we take a look at later on in greater detail. However, the basis of a female led relationship is that the woman in the relationship is the most dominant of partners. The woman makes the majority of decisions within the relationship and takes responsibility for what would traditionally be the male's role in a relationship. Traditional gender roles are swapped or are fluid, depending on the type of FLR, and the woman in the partnership becomes head of the household. Normally, the man in the relationship will take the traditional role of a woman - they might look after the kids, do the household chores and be more submissive.
A lot of women want to be in a female led relationship because they can choose how they can live their life, rather than trying to fit into a life that their partner wants. They don't have to adhere to gender roles and stay home, look after kids, and make the house perfect for when their man gets home. Instead, they can focus on their career and enjoy a driven and fulfilled life whilst having the security of knowing their partner is at home doing all the jobs that should traditionally be their job. Alpha female women, in particular, want to be in an FLR.
Although a lot of men still feel like they want to be the one in control, some men really like to be dominated by a woman. Some men don't want to take responsibility or be in control, and therefore an FLR is the perfect choice for them. Some men also prefer staying home, raising children, cooking and doing traditional female duties - a female led relationship means that they can do this without feeling the pressure to be a decision maker or control the more 'manly' aspects of life. In addition to this, a lot of men are interested in being dominated by a woman in the bedroom. The sex life in a female led relationship is normally exceptionally hot and kinky.
A female led relationship can differ in intensity, and there are usually four different types. The relationship can move between different types, but normally a partnership finds where it's comfortable being and stays there. We're going to take a look at the different extremity levels in an FLR. This might help you to categorize the relationship you're in, or decide where you and your partner would like to be.
In a low-intensity FLR, the man in the relationship will ask the woman to take control in several ways. The woman will, therefore, take control in these ways. However, because the man has requested these changes in the woman, the woman isn't in control of the relationship herself.
In a moderate-intensity FLR, the woman in the relationship will take control of most things when it comes to the partnership because she knows that she is benefitting from it. However, she still wants her partner to have control over some aspects of the relationship and will let her partner know what he should be taking care of.
In a high-intensity FLR, the woman is defined as the absolute head of the household and she takes control and makes decisions in the relationship. The traditional gender roles between the partners will switch, and the woman will be the one who works and provides for the family, whilst the man will be focused on childcare, cooking, cleaning and providing a nice environment for his partner to come back to at the end of the day. The woman may also dominate the man in the bedroom.
In an extreme FLR, the woman in the relationship will take control of absolutely everything in the relationship, and also in the man's personal life. The man will be submissive, and the woman will dominate him. This might even include taking control of the man's money, social engagements and schedule. This type of FLR could be considered controlling and abusive if it isn't consensual between the partners.
When a couple enter into an FLR, they agree on their role and on who is the dominating character within their relationship. Therefore, the power struggle that many relationships have to deal with is completely eliminated. The couple knows where they stand with each other, and instead of trying to beat each other all the time and struggle to gain power over the relationship, they will both have their own duties and stick to them. In this way, they are working together to create their best life.
In the majority of traditional relationships, the man's role is to provide for the family and make sure that the woman he is with and the children have the best life possible. He is supposed to be the provider. A lot of men, believe it or not, actually feel a lot of pressure to live up to these traditional expectations, especially if they aren't business-minded, or they aren't driven by money. In an FLR, these expectations are taken away from the man, and the woman (who actually wants to be dominant and be the provider) takes on his role. This means that the man will be released from feeling the pressure of having to live up to certain expectations that he won't be able to.
Most men take great satisfaction from being able to please their woman in bed, and they feel sexually satisfied when they provide their woman with great sex. In most FLR relationships, the main focus when the pair gets intimate is to pleasure the woman. So, the man in the partnership will feel incredible, knowing he has given his woman sexual satisfaction. A lot of men also love being dominated during sex - it's kinky. In an FLR, most of the time, the woman will be dominating during sex, as well as in everyday life. The sex life in an FLR will be hotter than most traditional relationships.
In an FLR, the two people involved will have to establish clear and honest communication with each other from the outset, so that both of them know the structure their relationship will have. They need to have good communication straight away to set out the different roles they will both be undertaking, and to establish boundaries within the relationship to make sure everything runs smoothly for both of them. Just because women are lead roles in this type of relationship, doesn't mean that they love their partner any less. Most women, no matter how alpha female they are, still feel naturally compassionate and maternal, therefore, they will want to make sure they are listening to their partner's feelings and that their man is happy. Therefore, the woman leading the relationship will always encourage the man to share how he feels so she can figure it out and make everything better.
Better communication within a relationship also means there will be a lot fewer arguments because everything is always clearly and honestly talked about.
When both people in the partnership have clearly defined roles, it is easier to have an increased focus on the happiness of the entire family. The woman will know what her duties are towards the family, and so will the man. Together, they can not only make sure everything runs smoothly in the family, by doing their duties to the best of their abilities, but they can also continue doing the things that they know make the entire family happy, and discuss the things that maybe aren't working out so well. With such clear communication and such finely detailed roles, the couple should be able to increase the happiness of the family and enjoy the smooth running of everyday family life.
Although a man might seem really into having a FLR with a woman when they first start dating, he might not have realized the true FLR meaning, and therefore later on in the relationship, he might struggle not being able to make decisions for himself or the relationship. Men are also naturally programmed to provide for women, as we touched on earlier, and so he might find it difficult to hold back the natural urge of wanting to provide and be an alpha male. He might also feel like he is being controlled too much.
Although certain men really want to stay at home, do housework and take care of the family, they might simply not be good at it. From a female perspective, the woman might take a look at the way in which her man is doing things when it comes to aspects of a traditional women's role, and she might disagree. This could be a point of contention between the man and the woman in the relationship because after all, the woman agreed to stick to the role of being the decision maker and earner.
When a man realizes that he isn't very good at filling a more submissive role, he might feel frustrated with himself that he isn't very good at being neither dominant nor submissive.
Other people might judge your relationship and think that it's a little bit strange that a woman is the one in complete control. Women in this situation probably won't find the judging too difficult to deal with, but men might find it hard to know that other men are aware that he is being dominated by his partner.
A man may really enjoy being in a FLR for a while, but he might start to feel too controlled and too restricted from doing things he wants to do, as time goes on. If the woman in the relationship is thriving at and really enjoying being the dominating character and the controller, the man might feel like he can't be open with her. So, he will keep his mouth shut and hide his feelings - this could make him seriously unhappy.
It's no secret that women love to be nurturing, caring and are instinctively maternal, so you might find yourself being all of these things to your partner. It's pretty normal to feel a little maternal over your partner because you care about them and you want them to be happy and feel nurtured. However, in a FLR, because the woman is providing for the man as well as caring for him, the woman might start to feel more and more like a mother figure to him. The relationship might weirdly merge into feeling like a mother-son relationship - this will definitely feel wrong.
1 . Talk Openly
2 . Set Roles
3 . Review How Things Are Going Every 6 Months
4 . Ignore The People Who Judge You
5 . Make Sure The Relationship Is Still Loving
6 . Watch Out For Negative Use Of Power