Is there a special guy being distant with you even though you get on well?
Are you wondering whether he’s afraid to fall for you?
Believe it or not, this is relatively common among guys. Men are scared of heartbreak too!
My guide below reveals 10 clearcut signs that he’s afraid to fall for you.
But, before I reveal these signs, I have an important story to share with you.
Recently, I discovered this little-known aspect of psychology which influences how men tend to feel when they meet women.
It’s named the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.
When it’s activated, it often triggers intense feelings of purpose and self-worth within a man. These feelings are incredibly addictive. Often, he’ll become helplessly affectionate towards women who can release these emotions within him.
I know because it worked for me!
Before activating a man’s ‘Hero’s Instinct’, I was stuck chasing guys who weren’t that interested in me. Now, it’s them chasing me and often OBSESSING over me. To find out how it works, read my deeply personal story.
This psychological shortcut is remarkably consistent, yet there aren’t many men or women aware of it. It really is your opportunity to make him feel like no other woman can.
If you’re tired of receiving mixed messages from your man, read this post about how I discovered the wonders of the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.
This article is going to help you to recognize the signs that he is falling in love with you but is just afraid of his emotions taking him over. Towards the end of the article, I am also going to tell you what you can do about the situation to help him feel more at ease with his emotions if you do think that he is just frightened. Let’s jump straight in.
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If this man is showering you with affection and flirting with you one minute, but then doesn’t text you back for two days, it could be because he is scared of what he is doing. It will feel like it is not really fair on you because he is sending completely mixed signals and confusing you. However, if you can pick up on it, it shows that he obviously does care about you and is probably just afraid of falling in love with you.
If he is being extra loving and caring towards you, he might realize what he is doing and then try to backtrack or figure out what is going on in his head. So, he will pull away from you for a day or two. It comes across to you that he is sending mixed messages, but it’s actually the fact that he has scared himself by giving you so much attention. He probably deep down already knows that he is falling in love with you, but he will feel the need to work on it in his head first before acting on it. Therefore, he will be pushing you away while he takes time to decide what is going on with his heart.
It is natural for a man that is falling in love with you to act nervously. There will be a few reasons for why he feels nervous in your presence. The first will be that he will feel out of control of his emotions when he is around you, and he might be freaking out about it. He might also be nervous that you aren’t going to reciprocate his feelings. He might also be nervous about the fact that you might catch on to how he feels about you – which by the end of this article, you will be an expert at.
You will be able to tell if he is nervous around you. There are ways of looking at his body to see if he is physically showing nerves. One of the main signs will be sweating. A lot of people sweat when they are nervous. So, if you notice he is sweating on his forehead or his palms are sticky, it’s probably because he is nervous about his feelings towards you and he can’t control himself when he is around you.
There are also a few behavioural traits that will show you if he is nervous around you. One of them will be if he is fidgeting. Do you notice that whenever you’re around him he seems to be preoccupied with something to play with? For example, if you are having a drink with him, he might be constantly playing around with the ice in his drink.
More obviously, if he blushes when he sees you or can’t get his words out when he tries to speak to you, he is falling for you and is terrified about it.
If he is falling in love with you but is afraid to tell you, you might notice that he gets overprotective when you speak about other men, or if other men look at you or talk to you when you are with him. He might not be open with you about his feelings, but if you can tell that he is protective over you, then it’s obvious that he is in love with you.
You might notice that he changes the subject whenever you try to speak about other men. He is trying to hide his feelings for you. He doesn’t want to hear about it, in case he shows you even a glimpse of the fact that he is jealous.
Another way that you might be able to see his jealousy is if he subtly hints to other men that might be interested in you, that you are his. When I say these are subtle hints, they are, so you have to really look for them. He doesn’t want to show you that he is in love with you, but he will be trying to tell other men to back off because you are his.
For example, if you are at a bar, he might stand very close to you or put his arm around you gently so that it looks like you are a couple. He is telling other guys to back off.
Men actually speak about their crushes and relationships way more than we think they do. However, they will normally only talk to each other about the girls that really matter to them. He might be asking his friends for advice on what to do, or to see what they think of you.
Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
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Obviously, it might be hard to know if he is speaking to his friends about you. However, if you meet his friends, they might actually tell you that he has been speaking about you. They might be trying to tell you that he does like you because they know he is not going to gain the courage any time soon to tell you.
An even more subtle way to find out if he has been speaking to his friends about you could be if when you are introduced to them, they say something like, “We’ve heard so much about you”. They could be hinting at you that he likes you or egging on their friend to tell you how he actually feels. If they do say something like this, look at your guy. If he blushes or tries to make a joke about their comment, it’s a sure sign that he is falling for you but doesn’t want to tell you.
This might sound slightly strange. Surely a man who is falling for you will want to look at you and make eye contact with you? He will, but if he is scared of his feelings towards you, he will act differently.
If you are making eye contact with each other, he will always be the one to pull his eyes away first. He doesn’t want to show you that he is falling for you, and the look in his eyes will probably be the biggest giveaway. He knows this, so he is hiding it from you.
This can also apply if he looks at you when you are not looking at him. You might be able to notice him gazing at you, or you might just be able to feel him staring at you. As soon as you turn your head to lock eyes with him, he will look away. He doesn’t want you to know that he was staring at you because he thinks you are beautiful, and he wants you.
If he is falling in love with you, he will want to speak to you all the time and see how you are. Over text message, he might feel more comfortable because you can’t really see what his feelings are. He might religiously text you every day or always ask you how you are feeling. If he does, it’s a sure sign that he wants to be in your life.
Someone that doesn’t care about you would not make the effort to message you. He obviously cares about you and is falling more in love with you with every day that goes on. If he is really nervous around you in person, he might also feel more comfortable speaking with you over text. It might be easier for him to open up over text. I wouldn’t be surprised if this guy ended up texting you to tell you that he loves you.
If he wasn’t interested in you and just saw you as a friend, he would probably mention other women and tell you how his romantic life was going – we all share these details with our friends. However, if this man is never mentioning any other women or discussing his relationships, it could be because you are the woman that he is falling in love with, but he can’t tell you that because he is terrified.
By never mentioning any other women, he is subconsciously telling you that he has eyes for you and no one else. You could test this out by asking if he is seeing anyone at the moment. You can say that you haven’t heard him speak about women in a while.
If you are feeling bold, you could tell him in a teasing way that there is someone you have your eye on and ask if he has his eyes on anyone. He will most likely blush and get flustered if he does like you. It could be possible that by you being a little bit more honest about the fact that you like him, he might actually tell you then that he likes you too – but unfortunately, I doubt it.
You might notice that whenever you are with him, he makes an effort to be close to you. You might be in a group of friends but notice that he moves himself so that you are closer together. He might always be offering you lifts home or offer to come and help you with some DIY at home. He loves being close to you because it probably makes him feel happy and content. You might also notice that he lingers around you for a little longer than he needs to sometimes.
This is pretty normal behavior for someone that is falling in love with you. However, you will be able to tell that he is afraid to fall for you if he makes excuses to leave or get further away from you if he starts to feel hot under the collar. If your faces get really close, it would give him the opportunity to make a move on you. But if he is scared of doing that, he will remove himself from the situation. Once again, he is showing you such a mix of emotions, even when it comes to his body language.
If he flirts with you, this is a clear sign that he has a big interest in you, otherwise, he wouldn’t give it the time of day. The flirting might actually go so far that he might kiss you. Now, I know this sounds like he’s not afraid because it is a bold move but if you think about it, he still hasn’t actually shown you any real emotions.
He will probably be flirting with you because he is trying to tread lightly and see how what your reactions are. Then he will be able to gauge if you are interested in him or not. He will be afraid to fall for you if he doesn’t think you are going to reciprocate his feelings. So, he is using the flirting and even a quick peck as a test to see if he can then go forward and tell you how he really feels about you.
As I am always saying, you really should trust your instincts. If a man is into you, you will normally just be able to feel it. You are probably reading this because of an initial vibe that you got from him, and you just need to know some obvious signs to back up your gut feeling.
The most common reason for men to be afraid of falling in love is that they have had bad experiences with other women in the past and been really hurt. He will, therefore, be naturally protective of himself and not want to put himself in such a vulnerable position again. Of course, this is not a bad thing, but it can be difficult if he has completely shut off from allowing himself to feel anything.
Another reason could be the fact that this is the first time he has fallen in love with anyone, and he might be really self-conscious about letting his feelings show. This can be especially true if he isn’t sure if his feelings will be reciprocated.
Now, this takes a huge amount of bravery, so not everyone might be comfortable doing this. However, if you simply talk to him and tell him that you know he likes you, he might feel more comfortable to express it. Make sure you are confident in the fact that he does like you though, or it could end up that you look very self-righteous.
Once again, this requires a large amount of bravery. However, if you make the first move it could make it feel at ease. He will then be reassured that you feel the same as he does, and he will open up to you.
If you have tried to make him feel comfortable and open with you, but he is still closed and isn’t giving you anything, it might be time to move on. You deserve someone who loves you and is happy to show that.
I really hope that this article will help you if you are trying to figure out if your man is afraid to fall in love with you.
If you realize that he does love you, but he is worried about showing it, I wish you lots of luck with trying to make him feel less afraid. Just look after yourself and don’t try so hard to focus on him that you forget yourself.
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