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How To Compete With Another Woman For A Man (7 Incredible Ways)

If you want to know how to compete with another woman for a gentleman, you should try to figure out why you want to compete for this man’s attention. Competing for a man should be a last resort because you should be proud of who you are! You shouldn’t let a relationship define you. Instead of competing with other girls, wait until you get that loving feeling for a man!

While I do think you shouldn’t compete for a man because you should be confident in who you are, in this article, we will cover how to win a man over in a relationship by winning any type of competition you are participating in! Instead of competing, I recommend you find a relationship that makes you happy and madly in love with the guy!

Top Ways To Compete With Another Woman For A Man

1. Be unique

Always be true to who you are; be original and be one of a kind. Be someone that this guy cannot find anywhere else. He will be begging to spend more time with you if you make sure you are a valuable commodity. Make sure you are honest about who you are, though. You don’t want to get in a relationship under false pretenses

If you love turtles, talk to him about your passion. If he doesn’t seem interested in that, go ahead and talk about another thing you are passionate about. If he does seem interested, you may have found the right match for you. Consider what guys like, too, when you pick out something to invest your time and effort in. 

If you love pink, frilly things, that’s great, but it’s probably not going to interest the man of your dreams. Maybe see if there is a sporting event that interests you in some way. You could even ask him to teach you the rules of the sport and how it is won. Many men love to talk about sports, so it will give him a chance to talk about something he loves!

2. Don’t bring her up

Even if you know there is another woman in the picture, you should not talk about her and her strengths or weaknesses. This just shows insecurity; instead, consider talking about things you are passionate about - pets, needlework, helping the homeless at a soup kitchen - whatever tickles your fancy!

3. Show that only you can meet his needs

show that only you can meet his needs

If you know the woman, you probably can guess, or perhaps you know what her weaknesses are. If you subtly hint that you can meet those needs, you will forever win his heart because he’ll know that you are the one he is meant to be with. You might even end up marrying this guy one day! You just never know unless you give it a real shot!

The most important thing is to be true to yourself. Make sure you are authentic, and you won’t have to worry about being “found out.” You don’t want to act like someone you are not. Find new ways to be the best version of yourself, whether that is helping your grandmother with groceries or volunteering at a children’s hospital! Just shine!

4. Play hard to get

I was never a hard-to-get girl when I was single until a friend of mine introduced me to The Rules - a book that describes the exact guidelines to follow to play hard-to-get with a guy. I’d had trouble catching the attention of the guys I wanted to date, so I decided to give it a shot. I read the book cover to cover and soon learned all the secrets.

Implementing them was a bit harder, and I was skeptical, but I decided to give it a chance. What did I have to lose? Anyway, I immediately saw positive results. By making guys wait until the weekend to ask me out, ending phone conversations first, and ending dates first, I was able to get any boyfriend that I wanted! It was truly amazing!

My recommendation is not to play games with a guy’s heart. Karma will get you if you mess with people like that. Just be busy, have your own interests, and be your own unique self. Make sure you have hobbies and interests that you are passionate about - something other than men and dating! You will find life to be more fulfilling that way!

5. Find common interests

So, I was watching The Glades last night, and the episode had the main character, who had been chasing an unavailable woman for too long, out on a date with someone new. He really had no interest in this new girl because he was in love with the unavailable one. Then, on his date, he found out this new girl loved and played golf!

Immediately, they ran to a golf course, and she showed off her expertise on the subject by telling him how to improve his golf swing. He was so impressed by the fact that they had a favorite interest of his in common that he ended up kissing her! He even scored an 80, which was the best golf score he had ever achieved.

By the end of the episode, he realized he was still in love with the taken girl, but the girl he went on the date with did capture his attention for a brief while by sharing an interest with him! The moral of the story is that you should find out what he is passionate about and show an active interest in his hobbies and interests if you can.

6. Stay positive

stay positive

No one likes being around someone who complains all the time. Miserable people attract the same kind of people, so try to be positive and upbeat. Do your best to look at the bright side of even the bleakest of situations. I know that life isn’t always sunshines and kittens, but if you focus on what’s important, you may find a new kind of happiness!

7. Show your beauty - inside and out

Try to look your best by wearing makeup and cute clothes. Don’t walk around in granny panties, a robe, and no makeup on. You will be easy to compete with if you aren’t even trying to look your best. Take good care of your skin and hair, too. That way, you can be a natural beauty - gorgeous without even trying very hard!

Remember that beauty fades with time, too. Over the years, your skin will sag, you may gain weight, and your face may get wrinkles. However, you can still be gorgeous on the inside. If you have a beautiful soul and winning personality, you will always be gorgeous in his eyes! Just don’t forget to let your positive side shine.

If you struggle with seeing the positive in life, you might want to try doing something positive with your life. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen or local animal shelter. They need help from people like you, and it will most likely make you a more caring and compassionate person. Just find new and creative ways to make your soul shine!


How do you make him choose you over the other woman?

When a man has to choose between two women, he will often go for the girl who doesn’t want to play any kind of game with his heart, someone genuine. Stop competing with the opposite sex and focus on making him prove his love to you! You’ll win that way!

What can a woman offer a man in a relationship?

In a relationship, a woman can offer her man a lot. When the man doesn’t act right, the female can put him in his place; she can also act as a sounding board, a best friend to him. When you’re in a relationship, you deserve to have a friendship with your partner. 

How do I keep him wanting more?

Always look your best; be attractive - both on the inside and out. Don’t be overly competitive with other women because a man might see competition as a lack of self-worth. Instead, win him over with your personality and good looks. Don’t worry about being competitive with others when dating.

How do you make him love you more than his wife?

There should be no competition when it comes to the heart of a good man. Lose the guys who cheat on the other relationships in their life for you. Losing men like this will actually help you win the heart of a man who will treat you right. 

What does a man want in a woman?

The most important things a man looks for in a woman vary, but many look for someone who is smart, sexy, and sophisticated. Some want a strong woman - someone who can stick up for herself and know right from wrong when it comes to the more important things in life.

In Summary

Remember to not worry so much about competing when in relationships. Instead of trying to compete with another gal, try to find a man that gives you that warm, happy feeling inside your soul. What do you think about competing with the opposite sex? How do you compete? Please share!

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