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Tired Of Being Single? (10 Things You Can Do To Change)

by Sonya Schwartz

Do you feel like you're fed up of being single? 

Everyone’s perception differs on how long is too long to be single, but if you’re at the point where you feel like you’re sick of being single and your love life is virtually non-existent, you might need a helping hand to get things back on track. 

This article is here to do just that. We’re going to be sharing with you 10 things you can do to change the way you’re feeling and move forward in a happier, more fulfilled mindset.

What Can You Do About It?

1. Realize That You’re Not Alone.

One of the most important things you need to do when you’re done with being single is to change your mindset. You need to realize that even people in relationships feel lonely from time to time, and therefore even if you were with someone, this lonely feeling probably wouldn’t disappear. You don’t have to be single and lonely, so let’s destroy this expectation, instead, you can be single and happy. If you’re surrounded by those that love you and care about you, you should never feel alone and you’re not. 

2. Learn To Love Yourself.

As mentioned above, you might feel that being lonely and single are synonymous, but in fact, as long as you love yourself, you will never feel alone and you will never feel like you need someone to complete your life. 

If you’re bored of being single, perhaps it’s time to focus on yourself rather than thinking about a fantasy relationship that you’re missing out on. Take time for yourself and work on yourself, looking inwards. Self-love is an essential part of becoming a happy human being, and it’s especially important if you want to fall in love with someone at some point in the future because you need to love yourself and be happy by yourself before you can commit to anyone else.

3. Spend More Time With Friends And Family.

If you’re over being single, something that will really help with changing that will be spending time around your friends and family. A lot of the time when someone feels they have been by themselves for too long, they start to feel isolated and therefore lonely, as mentioned above.

One of the best things you can do to overcome this is to spend time with the people that love you and care about you. Not only will hanging out with loved ones make you feel happier and increase the love in your life, but it’s also a great idea to spend time with these people as much as possible before you do start dating someone and inevitably start to spend less time with them (none of us wants to admit it, but we do spend less time with our friends and family when we’re taken).

4. Stop Searching For Love.

When you’re single, every person you feel even mildly attracted to will make their way into your mind and you’ll be hoping for a new partner wherever you can find one - you’re actively searching for love. This is one of the worst things you can do when you’re single, and you need to stop it. 

Although dating is a great idea, make sure you don’t search for love and commitment in every guy you meet. Not only will you freak out every potential partner that comes your way, but if you spend all your time searching for love, it will only get further away from you. Love always comes when you least expect it, so don’t search for it. 

5. Become Immersed With The Things You Enjoy.

If you’re feeling tired of being single, you might actually be tired of the life you’re living or you might simply be doing nothing but searching for a new partner. Rather than feeling fed up and miserable, you need to do things that you enjoy and utilize your time. Is there a hobby you’ve always wanted to try or a place you’ve always wanted to visit? Now is the time to do it and get out of your comfort zone.

If you can, try to do things with other people, such as going to group yoga classes or joining a society, therefore, you’re surrounding yourself with people as well as occupying your mind. It’s almost guaranteed that as soon as you start getting involved with new groups and doing the things you love, you will meet someone with similar interests to you and who’s perfect for you. 

6. Get Back Onto The Dating Scene.

This is probably the most obvious thing you can do to make yourself feel better if you’re tired of being single - start dating. It’s definitely a good idea to get back into dating because you might meet the love of your life, but you might also just have some fun and make some good friends along the way. However, you need to make sure you’re keeping control when you’re dating to stay calm and make sure you don’t force anything. 

Also, just because you’re bored of being alone doesn’t mean you should settle and date someone that you’re not crazy about or someone that treats you badly. Set boundaries when it comes to dating and doesn’t change your relationship status unless it’s worth it.  

7. Figure Out What You Want In A Partner.

Figure Out What You Want In A Partner

When you’re single, it’s the perfect time to focus on what kind of partner you would like to have in the future and what you are truly looking for in a partnership. Sometimes we fall in love with the wrong kind of person, but we get so wrapped up in the honeymoon stage to then realize that years later down the line we are in a relationship that isn’t right, or we’re with a person that doesn’t make us happy

Whilst you’re away from the distractions of being in a relationship, you can really evaluate what kind of person you want to be with in the future and what you’re looking for in a relationship. Then, when you do decide to date, you know exactly what you are looking for and what kind of person you want to be with, so you don’t have to waste anyone’s time or end up in an unfulfilling relationship.

8. Figure Out What You Want From Life.

As well as trying to figure out what you’re looking for in a future partner and relationship, whilst you’re single and away from the distractions that occur when you’re with someone, it’s a great time to think about what you really want from life. Think about what you want to achieve, make life goals, and even a plan (if you’re that type of organized person) and live it out. You will, no doubt, meet someone perfect for you if you are already, independently, living the life you desire.

9. Enjoy Freedom.

You might not realize it right now, and you might be sick of having no one just for yourself, but you have an incredible amount of freedom as a single person. Try to enjoy this freedom as much as you can, while you can. You have no one to consider before taking action on anything which is such an incredibly beautiful thing, so enjoy it. Stay out late partying with friends, lie in, and don’t clean your apartment for days, date as much as you want, and take trips whenever and wherever. Live your best carefree life.

10. Stay Open And Hopeful To The World Of Love.

It’s essential that you stay open to the world of love whilst you’re single, especially when you’re fed up with not being in love. Don’t lose hope on having a perfect love, because the one for you is waiting out there, you just haven’t found them yet. If you can learn to be happy by yourself, just imagine how happy you will be when you do find the one for you.

FAQs

What To Do When You Are Tired Of Being Single?

Hopefully, this article will have helped you with this question, but when you’re tired of being single, the main things you need to do are make sure that you are happy with yourself and the life you’re living, as well as spending time with those that make you happy, and making sure you fill your life with joy.

Is It OK To Be Single Forever?

It is completely OK to be single for the rest of your life, as long as you are happy with that and that’s what you see when you think about your future. Not everyone wants to be with someone else and that’s absolutely their choice. However, if it’s not a choice, there is someone out there for everyone, and if you’re open to love, you will meet someone perfect for you at some point in the future.

How Do You Live With Being Single?

It can feel really tough being single, especially if you are surrounded by couples. However, there are so many people that live perfectly happy as single people. Take a look at the 10 points in this article to help you with this, but overall, you need to make sure you are happy within yourself and you can enjoy every other aspect of life that doesn’t involve a partner.

How Do Singles Deal With Frustration?

It can be frustrating for many singles if they feel like they can’t find someone out there for them or that something is standing in the way of them finding their true love. Singles can deal with this frustration by channelling it towards something else that’s productive like their job or a new hobby, as well as by looking around them and admiring successful single people. Remember that if you’re open to love and want to find love, it will come to you, just try not to search too hard for it and get frustrated by it. Love comes naturally.

Is Being Single Lonely?

Being single can sometimes be lonely, especially if you are someone that needs a lot of intimate attention or someone that is used to being with a partner. However, a lot of single people take great joy in the relationship status and don’t feel lonely. It’s all about perspective and personal feelings, but being single doesn’t have to be lonely.

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On A Final Note...

I really hope this article has shed some light on how to change feeling tired of being single. Just remember, you will find the person you’re meant to be with at the right time, don’t force it. Use this time alone to enjoy freedom, work on yourself, and think about what you want in the future. Did you like this list? If you did, leave a comment and share the article!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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