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My Boyfriend Is Bisexual: What Should I Do?

Last updated on June 17, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Did you boyfriend tell you he’s bisexual? 

Are you worried about what this means for your relationship?

If so, you’re in the right place, because this guide reveals everything you need to know. 

However, before we dive into it, it’s important for you to read the next few sentences carefully. 

A lot of women worry that a bisexual boyfriend is more likely to cheat on them. 

If you’re frightened about this, the best thing you can do is to discover the truth. 

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Put simply, if he has been cheating, this tool is likely to make it immediately obvious.

However, this guide isn’t just about infidelity. Read on for some more ideas on what to do if your boyfriend reveals he is bisexual. 

If you’re a girl who can honestly say “my boyfriend is bisexual”, you’re exactly who I put this topic together for. I want you to know how to handle these big changes in your relationship and decide what to do.

I want to show you what bisexuality is and what you might do in your relationship because of it.

What Does Bisexual Mean?

If you’re familiar with the acronym of LGBTQ+, you should know that the B stands for bisexual. This is one type of homosexuality.

People who are bisexual are individuals who like girls and guys. They are attracted to both girls and guys and would be willing to date either of them.

Bisexuality is as simple as that. People tend to make it more complex than it actually needs to be.

Because your boyfriend is bisexual, he may choose whether he wants to date a guy or a girl. Currently, he is dating you, a girl. He might have dated guys before or maybe he would date a guy in the future if you two broke up.

Watch this video to learn more about bisexuality:

What Should You Say If Your Boyfriend Tells You He’s Bisexual?

If your boyfriend comes out and tells you that he is bisexual, there are a few things you should do in response. This will help him to know that he is still loved and appreciated. Keep in mind that not all homosexual individuals are accepted by their friends and family.

At this moment, your boyfriend may need a lot of support. It all depends on how he has been treated up to this point. Still, a little bit of love and encouragement never hurt anyone.

It’s also worth reminding you that your boyfriend trusted you enough to come out to you. You need to be there for him. He may not trust his friends and family or maybe he doesn’t have anyone else to talk to.

First, you should let him know that you still love him. He may need to hear that you still care about him and that you love him the same as you always have. This is important because he may have been treated unfairly by his friends or family.

Next, you should ask him if he needs anything. Be careful so that you don’t make it sound like something is wrong with him. Use this as an opportunity to show him that you understand how some people view homosexuality.

By doing this, you will be showing your boyfriend that you love and support him.

What Should You Avoid Saying If Your Boyfriend Tells You He’s Bisexual?


Just like there are some things that your boyfriend might need to hear when he tells you that he’s bisexual, there are some things you absolutely should not say. You want to avoid making him feel like he’s doing something wrong.

Even if you don’t agree with homosexuality, you should not challenge him. He is telling you this because he trusts you. He doesn’t need you to question this.

You shouldn’t explain how you disagree with homosexuality or how you don’t support it. At this moment, you should be helpful and loving. He came to you for a reason!

You should try to avoid acting extremely shocked or surprised. Try not to seem angry or upset. Keeping a positive demeanor is helpful.

How Can Your Boyfriend Be Bisexual If He’s Dating You?

It’s pretty simple, actually. Your boyfriend is bisexual, which means he will date men or women. Currently, he wants to be dating you. He feels attracted to you and wants to be with you.

He doesn’t become heterosexual just because he is dating a woman. He wouldn’t become gay if he started dating a man.

He may be bisexual, but that doesn’t mean his sexuality changes. As someone who is bisexual, he can date men or women, depending on who he is attracted to.

Him being bisexual doesn’t affect the fact that he is dating a woman. By the definition of bisexual, your boyfriend can date men or women.

It can be confusing, but it makes more sense if you think about the meaning of bisexual and how it all works.

Because your boyfriend is bisexual, you might be wondering if he would leave you to go date a guy. This is a legitimate concern that we will get into later. In short, you don’t have to worry about that any more than you would need to in a heterosexual relationship.

Should You Break Up with Your Boyfriend?


You shouldn’t break up with your boyfriend just because he’s bisexual. He still wants to date you.

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If he mentions that he wants to date a guy instead, the two of you may decide to break up.

Now, if you aren’t supportive of your boyfriend being bisexual, you will likely have to break up. He’s going to get enough slack from his friends, family, and the entire world for being homosexual. The last thing he needs is a negative opinion from his girlfriend.

You can absolutely date your boyfriend if he is bisexual. This is no reason to break up in and of itself. It may happen eventually if needed. Your boyfriend being bisexual shouldn’t affect your relationship in any way or lead to a breakup.

What Should You Do?

There are actually very few ways that your boyfriend’s bisexuality could affect your relationship. Keep in mind that some people do tend to get worried about this so it’s normal to be concerned. It’s actually not a big deal at all!

If you’re dating a guy who is bisexual, you don’t need to change a thing in your relationship.

There are a few minor things you can do to support your boyfriend as a member of the LGBTQ+ community. For example, you can be there for him on the tough days. Not everyone is going to be accepting of him.

Aside from that added support, you don’t need to make changes in your relationship. There’s no need to make any bold decisions because of this.

Is It Okay to Date Someone Who Is Bisexual?

Plenty of people are in heterosexual relationships even if they are bisexual. They live their lives as a normal heterosexual couple with no problems whatsoever.

This alone should tell you it’s okay to date someone who may be bisexual. You shouldn’t have anything to worry about.

You can actually continue your relationship without making any changes at all. Your relationship can be the same as it has always been without a problem!

It’s important to note that you should continue treating your boyfriend the same as you always have. Just because he’s told you he is bisexual does not mean that he’s a different person.

Don’t break up with your boyfriend just because he’s bisexual. You’re still in a relationship with the same person!

Will Your Boyfriend Cheat on You if He’s Bisexual?


This is a common misconception that people have while dating a bisexual person. People believe this because they think that bisexual individuals want to be with a male even if they’re dating a female and vice versa.

In short, no. Your boyfriend is not any more likely to cheat on you because he is bisexual. Heterosexual boyfriends are just as likely to cheat on their partner so you don’t really have anything to worry about.

Of course, you should be aware of the fact that your boyfriend could cheat. Just don’t be concerned specifically because he is bisexual. That doesn’t make a difference.

If your boyfriend does cheat on you, know that it’s not because he is bisexual. It’s simply a common issue in relationships.

If you catch your boyfriend cheating on you, treat it as you would treat any other cheating incident. Be careful so that you do not blame your boyfriend’s bisexuality on the situation. That’s not what this is about.

How Can You Support Your Bisexual Boyfriend?

As mentioned before, your boyfriend being bisexual can cause a lot of stress for him. His family and friends might not accept him for who he is. He might be made fun of or put down because of this.

As his girlfriend, it’s your job to be supportive. You should make sure that he knows that you love him for who he is.

You might also support your boyfriend by going with him when it’s time for him to tell people that he’s bisexual. You can be there to back him up if his friends or family have anything negative to say to him.

You can encourage him by simply reminding him that you are on his side and that you truly care about him as a person.

Be there for your boyfriend when he needs you the most, especially if he’s having a hard time with his relatives or peers.

Other than that, you should continue to support your boyfriend like you would have before you knew he was bisexual! Keep helping him when he’s having a rough day. Make sure you are loving him and encouraging him when he needs it.

Should You Tell People That Your Boyfriend Is Bisexual?


You absolutely should not tell anyone that your boyfriend is bisexual without his permission. You need to respect his privacy and allow him to tell people if and when he is ready.

It’s not your place to tell others that your boyfriend is bisexual. One of the biggest reasons for this is that people are not always accepting of homosexual individuals. If you out your boyfriend, he may get some backlash that he wasn’t prepared for.

If your boyfriend asks you to tell someone that he’s bisexual, go for it. With his permission, there isn’t a reason not to tell people. You just shouldn’t ever tell someone without your boyfriend’s permission.

This is true of all topics that revolve around your boyfriend. Given the strong opinions about the LGBTQ+ community, not everyone will be welcoming of this news.

Because of how people tend to treat LGBTQ+ individuals, your boyfriend may ask for your assistance and support. This added encouragement can be very helpful.

What Should You Do If You Think Homosexuality is Wrong?

If you can’t agree with your boyfriend on this controversial topic, you shouldn’t be dating him. He needs your love and support as his girlfriend.

Some people disagree with homosexuality for a number of different reasons. For many people, this is because it’s still a somewhat foreign topic. For others, it’s because of their religious or moral beliefs.

If you think that homosexuality is not okay, you need to make a decision. You can either support your boyfriend despite your differences or you can break up with him.

There are things that couples disagree with all the time. This is a big part of your boyfriend’s lifestyle so it may be harder to overlook. You still have the option to accept it even if you don’t agree with it.

You can try to work with yourself too. Being this close to someone who is a part of the LGBTQ+ community might open your mind a bit.

If you absolutely cannot accept your boyfriend or change your mind about the way you see homosexuality, you should break up with your boyfriend. This major difference in views could eventually break the two of you up anyway. It’s better not to deal with that later on.


If your boyfriend is bisexual, you should love and support him as you always have. This isn’t grounds for a breakup so don’t worry about that. You and your boyfriend can continue your relationship happily without any issues whatsoever.

Your boyfriend being bisexual shouldn’t influence your relationship unless you let it. Many bisexual individuals are happily dating or married to heterosexual individuals.

If you have any questions about this topic or another topic, feel free to leave us a comment. We will do our best to answer your questions!

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

19 comments on “My Boyfriend Is Bisexual: What Should I Do?”

  1. I just found out that my boyfriend is bisexual. I still love him. But I’m a little bit confused after hearing that he confessed with one of my friends. Help me to be open minded about my situation. Thank you.

  2. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and he told me he’s bisexual at the beginning of our relationship. It didn’t concern me much. After two years he told me he likes to get “freaky” every so often and asked me if he could play with men once and a while with my permission. I feel like this is cheating. Whether it’s a man or a woman he’s sleeping with it’s someone other than me. I asked him if he wanted an open relationship and he said no he wouldn’t want me to sleep with anyone else. He said that he wouldn’t date a male or get emotionally attached so it’s just a physical pleasure he wants and if I were to sleep with other males there’s a chance i could get emotionally attached to them. He said I could sleep with women- but I’m not attracted to women. I find this whole situation confusing and I don’t want any of this in my monogamous relationship....

    1. Hey Felicia! I have a very similar problem and have no idea what to do with it. My boyfriend asked if he can make out with other guys in clubs every now and then. He also said it's okay for him if I want to kiss or sleep with other men. But I don't.

      I've only dated straight guys before, never had an open relationship and don't know how to react. It feels like the best solution would be a breakup but at the same time, I really love my partner and think that maybe we could try to become non-exclusive for a few months and see if it works...

      Anyways, if there are readers who found a working solution to this problem, please let us know!

    2. well, you shouldn't agree to things that make you uncomfortable. A suggestion like one made by your boyfriend isn't one all bisexual people make, however (I personally would never. A lonely thought of sleeping with anyone other than my current partner makes me kind of nosious). I think you two should sit down and just talk about it. he might be bi-curious, or polyamorous, or just want to play around but whichever it is - a relashionship should always be built on mutual honesty and support. If you don't feel comfortable, tell him. I wouldnt advise to attack him or accuse of cheating, but an open conversation about your feelings about this would be good.

  3. "The B stands for bisexual. This is one type of homosexuality."

    Er, what? That's not what the word means.

  4. I've been in a good relationship with my boyfriend for 2.5 years and I knew he used to like guys and I've accepted his bisexuality upon entering this relationship. However, he was never able to accept that part of himself so he buried it. We were madly in love. He wants a future with me but is afraid if he doesnt figure out his sexuality and accept himself now, he will make things worse in the future. However, it seems that even though he is bi, he 'like guys more'. It is making him doubt whether he can be 100% into our relationship. He suggests going on a break for him to figure things out, but my friends are telling me he is being selfish and I should leave.

    He dropped this bomb on me 1 week ago. He admits that he was truly happy with being with me until 1 week ago when he started thinking about how he hasnt accepted his sexuality. Since then, he said he slowly put in less effort in our relationship and feels less for me. I am so scared right now because I don't want to lose him. I dont know what to do, how to make things better or where to find strength from.

  5. I caught my partner of 12 years visiting gay, cross dressing and transgender chat rooms/dating apps. He also has been watching a lot of gay fetish porn. He admits to talking to guys and planning meet ups but says he always backs out. He claims that he’s never cheated and does not want to be bisexual but wants to continue living the life we have with our 2 daughters. We were actually very happy before I found out. He said he has an addiction to porn and this has slowly evolved from that. He says he could never see himself being intimate with a man and that it’s just an urge he gets when he drinks and watches porn. I’ve been very calm and supportive during his confessions but I found that this has been going on for over 10 years at least. A part of me feels that this is truly who he is and that my kids and I are a cover up for his secret life. He swears that it’s pretty much just a bad habit and something he doesn’t want to do anymore. He said he just wants me and only me for the rest of his life. I just don’t know what to do. I love him more than anything but I don’t trust him anymore. I don’t want him to continue living a lie if this is who he really is. I’m scared that he will eventually give in to his urges and cheat, eventually tearing my family apart and wasting more years of my life that I’ve devoted to only him. I want monogamy and trust. He says this is not who he really is and has been questioning himself lately about why he’s still doing it. But I can’t help but to think that if it’s been going on this long than I find it hard to believe that he’s never followed through with his advances and maybe this is who he really is. I feel like I will never be enough for him but he’s begging me to stay. I don’t know what to do. I want to be with him but I also have my future and my kids to consider. I’m just having a hard time weighing the risks so any advice would be much appreciated. I just love him so much.

    1. DC I feel your pain and dilemma. Last year I accidentally found out my husband of 15 years was looking at some pretty radical porn sites as they showed up in the history on our shared iPad when I was looking for a recipe I had seen a few days before. when I asked him about it he denied it so I started showing him the history pages and then he said it was a one off time, that he looked out of interest after seeing it mentioned when he was in a sports chat room and that he’s never done it again and not interested. Turns out that was the one he forgot to delete. Then 4 weeks ago a bailiff knocked on the door to serve notice on him for a loan he defaulted on that I knew nothing about. When he got home I confronted him and he tried to trivialise it but then confessed he has opened separate bank accounts and used the money to pay for extra “advertising” for his part time business that makes no money so he didn’t tell me cos he knew I wouldn’t agree. Three thousand dollars for a 20 second video to put on his website. But he borrowed five thousand and said the rest went to donations to charity but refused to show me the bank statement by saying he didn’t have online banking. I had to pay the loan from our meagre savings so they didn’t come and take our furniture. I work longer hours than him and make more than him but he doesn’t care.
      I think he spent the rest of the money on gay hookups because two weeks ago I again found bad history searches so I browsed further on our shared iPad and found some texts he forgot to delete from messenger. He’s been sexting men, women, trans sexuals, dating services. Not one offs, there are long explicit conversations about what he’s going to do with and to them and repeat calls and I didn’t even know he knew words like that, some are pretty offensive. In his cellphone records he has phoned local “massage parlours” lately and online prostitutes. He denied when I asked him and suggested someone at work was playing a trick on him. I told him I didn’t believe him as it’s multiple times and his phones passworded. He threw his phone at me and gave me the password thinking he was so clever but although he’d deleted all surfing history and sexts I went through his saved phone numbers in front of him and found one with just initials so I googled it in front of him and it was a hot sex call line for bisexuals. He broke down in tears and said he’s never done anything physical with anyone else and loves only me but his sexting says otherwise Such as I can’t stop thinking about your bj. And much worse texts. I completely trusted this guy and feel so betrayed as all the lies and deceit are still unravelling. It took a week to get him out of the house and I have run out of tears now. He says he’ll never do it again and he doesn’t think he’s gay and doesn’t know why he did it but this is the third time he’s said that he won’t do it again. He’s agreed to start counselling and has booked an appointment but I can never trust him again. He seems to think he did one little thing wrong but this is devastating to me. Ladies if you suspect your man then go with your gut instinct, signs were there but I didn’t think he would ever cheat on me emotionally, sexually or financially. Now he wants half of the house etc so I’ll have to sell it we have no savings as we paid off his stupid loan, and I have nowhere to go. but he says he wants to remain”friends” And he doesn’t want me to tell anyone. I want to help him sort himself out and stop lying all the time. I have tried to hate him but we had good times before all this happened I love his family and am sorry to lose them. I thought I knew this guy and that we would grow old together. Once a cheater always a cheater I don’t think he’ll change because he did it for over a year but I am stronger now and will move on. Sorry for long post but it’s good to vent. I hope all goes well for you whatever you decide, but look after yourself first and foremost.

    2. DC,
      Any addiction, whether it’s drugs, booze, pornography, etc. is devastating to your relationship. Your partner needs to find counseling. If he begs you to stay, then give him an ultimatum. You love him very much, and if he doesn’t want to lose you, then he needs to find help. Hope it will all work out for the good!

  6. I just found out my boyfriend is bisexual. I truly don't know how to react. I feel so confused and I don't know what to think. I still love him deeply but I don’t know how to normalize the situation in my mind.

    1. I just found out after 5 months of dating. My mind is still reeling. He always told me it was with another woman and finally confessed. 3 years..his longest relationship was with a man. I have no idea what to do. We're taking a little break (my idea) so I can process this and figure out what to do next. Not so much the bisexuality, but the lying. How did it work out with yours?

  7. My boyfriend came out bisexual last night to me. He doesn’t seem to be attracted too another man but thinks he is bisexual. It’s very confusing for me, I want to love and support him but am scared he won’t be able to love me in the way I need to be as he’s still confused that he’s be bisexual.

    1. Fran, my boyfriend has just done the same thing last night! I also don't know how to feel about it, does it mean that one day he will just go off and explore this side of himself and if so, where does that leave me?

  8. So I’ve been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 1/2 years and I was literally just having a conversation with him about Jesus and my faith (of all things). And then he dropped the bomb on me and told me he’s pretty sure he’s bisexual. I still love him and we had a conversation about pretty much everything in this article, I was pretty concerned that he would find he wants to be with a guy and explore that aspect of his sexuality but he made sure to explain to me that that’s not how bisexuality works. Just because he likes both men and women doesn’t mean he has a preference over one or the other, and that it just means he’s going to love who he loves and that right now that person is me. I felt a lot better after him telling me that knowing that our relationship is still in one piece and that nothing has to change between the dynamic between us, but I’m still trying to process everything and wrap my mind around the fact that this is reality. Anyway, sorry for the long comment. I needed to vent for a bit. 🙂

  9. I found out that my bf is having a relationship with a gay, apparently for using him, i mean the gay is helping him financially, i am not sure yet what they do physically and if they do full sex or what, i just read in one of the messages that he is telling him come give me good massage, i think that my bf is the boy in their relationship, but if its the opposite, i am really shocked and disgusted because he is being with me In the same time and so i might have sickness because of this, i am concerned also about i don’t know if my bf is bisexual or he is doing this for the financial benefit with this gay only... i still feel this is cheating and its hurting me and i dont know what should i do, i was shocked cz he is womanizer usually and never would have thought this, his sexual needs are very high and i thought he is satisfied with women. I love him but i am still under shock and don know what should i do

  10. My bf and I are in a relationship for almost 5 years. He just confesses that he thinks he's bisexual and he like his workmate and they've been flirting for a month. I just don't know what to do, I have no problem of him being a bisexual, he cheated on me but I don't want to leave him. He's confused on who to choose. What should I do? Should I wait for his answer that maybe he will choose me or break up with him?

  11. I want to point out that - as a bisxual man myself - confusion is common. I wrestled with myself for months before coming out to my gf. She was supportive but somewhat concerned by this news. I dont want to trivialise anyone here but I want to just get it out there that having to fight something you were brough up believeing was wrong. Rejectong yourself on a deep level is one of the hardest things ever. If someone comes out to you it is the biggest display of trust you are lucky to experience. That said if you have busted them breaking any "rules" of the relationship then thats on them. If they deny any attraction towards men then it is likely they have rejected themselves. Work with them if you can, if you cant then its likely time to part ways. At the end of the day; the need to hide our bisexuality comes from the social conditioning that Queer rights dont exist (bi -erasure especially). I wish you all the best in life and apologise for any grammar/spelling mistakes. Its 1am and I've been up since 5am. -EI

  12. Hi im bryan. Ive been hiding my sexuality as bisexual for years now. Im now sure i am cos im attracted to men and women. Im currently having relationship with a man and a woman right now. Ive been in a relationship with this man for 2yrs and a half now and we love each other so much. He's also the same as mine who is hiding his sexuality from others. We both know that this relationship we have right now is wrong bcos he knows that i have a gf who im with for 3 months now. We had made so many plans with this man like he wants to have a family and kids in the future and so do i. Its just so hard for me to think that how am i supposed to deal with this situation. Ive been trying to cut off our connection so that we can focus on finding right woman for each us on the future, but he told me and told him i cant leave without him like my life wouldn't be complete without him. Its like we're best friends or brothers or lovers or whatever it is. I love him so much but we need to make our plans and see what will happen. He told me that he'll always be there when i get married with my gf and he gets married too. I love my gf too and im doing my best to love her as much as i love that man. I know that its unfair to my gf that ive been hiding or cheating with her but i know for the fact that im being honest of what i feel about her that i love her and i want her to be my wife. Its just so hard and i hate myself being with this sexuality i wish i was born straight so i wouldn't have to feel this way.
    Thanks for reading sorry its too long. I just want to share what ive been through.

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