Falling for someone that you know is going to move away is starting a relationship that you already know has an expiration date. Deep down, you know that it will come to an end, but you go on a date anyway. You tell yourself that things are going to be fine.
Then, you come face to face with the fact that you love them, and there will be so much distance between the two of you. I’ve ended relationships because of this, but I’ve also tried long-distance relationships. Which one should you do?
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When it comes time to make that decision, you will realize that you can either stay in a long-distance relationship or break up and go your separate ways. Which decision is right for you will depend on what you want, whether you truly love them, and the depth of your relationship.
If you already know that your feelings are going to be hurt when they leave, you have the choice to say goodbye. I’ve made this choice before. I felt that I was getting attached, and I knew that there was no future. At the time, I was going through a lot and did not want to add to it. This was by far the easier, less emotional option.
Having a temporary relationship can be fun. Even if you know that it will not last forever, this is part of the excitement. When the two of you are together, you’ll feel like you are in a bubble away from the rest of the world. Every date will feel magical. The memories that you have with each other will last a lifetime, even if the relationship doesn’t.
I’ve also had temporary relationships, and those are my most treasured memories. I still look back fondly on certain people, a date we went on and remember the way that specific people were. I’m glad that I had those temporary relationships.
Whether you choose to walk away or stay can greatly depend on whether you truly love them. If you see something in them that you’ve never found in anyone else, it could be well worth the possible heartbreak to invest time into the other person.
Make sure that you are correct about your feelings. You could easily mistake love for lust. It’s also very easy to mistake that carefree feeling that you have with them as them being that special person. This because you know that it’s temporary and feels more carefree.
Even if you are certain that they will be across the country in a month or two, it’s important to determine what the future might hold. You could end it, enjoying the way things were and going about your lives. Another option would be to stay in contact as friends. A third would be attempting a long-distance relationship. There are pros and cons to all of them. Only you can decide which one is right.
When it comes time to say goodbye, many choose to end it respectfully. This is because they are well aware the other options will not work. Most people think that it’s the only option, but other people put considerable thought into it and still believe it’s their best option.
The downfall is the obvious heartbreak that will come. You also have to keep in mind that the heartbreak might be inevitable. If your current fling has just begun, time apart might not strengthen it. Instead, it can make it more difficult to maintain a long term relationship.
There are several upsides to this. While you’ll still experience the sadness that comes with every break-up, you’ll move on quicker than you would if you attempted a long term relationship for months or years. After you move, you’ll get to enjoy all the benefits of being single, and you can cherish the positive memories that you had.
Staying in contact is an idea that most people like at first. In this situation, you’re not in a relationship but are still friends. It sounds ideal because you get to talk to and see the other person, but can do what you want.
Most of the time, this situation doesn’t work out if the relationship ended on bad terms or you two were in a long term relationship. This is because one of you has feelings for the other. It can be hard to talk to someone you like without thinking about them with other people. It tends to make the hurt last longer, and it cuts a little deeper every time you talk to them.
If you were in a casual fling and neither had feelings, this option could work. You could talk to each other as you normally would, and enjoy having amazing great conversations. Hooking up when you head back home is another wonderful option you get with this choice.
Whether this one will work greatly depends on whether either person would develop feelings, or already had them. It also depends on whether either person might want a relationship. If they do, let them down gently and don’t consider this an option. They’re refusing to let go because they think you will change your mind or someday you will be together. If you do not want a future with them, it’s cruel to string them along.
If you have been with a person on a long-term basis or really like them, the thought of a long-distance relationship will probably cross your mind.
I have problems with long-distance relationships because I like physical affection. Knowing that I don’t get a hug until they can visit in two months kills me. There will also be a lack of sex, which equally kills me. The lack of physical interaction can lead to cheating or problems in the relationship.
If you don’t mind waiting to get that hug, though, this type of relationship might work. You can call each other whenever you like, see each other via video chat and take a trip to visit. If you really like the other person and think a long-distance relationship might work, it’s always worth a shot.
If it’s just a crush, it’s time to move on. Enjoy the time that you have with them, but understand that there no future in this. It will not benefit you to become emotionally invested in a crush that will be gone soon.
If a guy starts to get feelings for you he will instantly pay more attention to you. You’ll get more texts and phone calls. He might stare at you more, or find reasons to be close to you. Guys will also act nervous from time to time.
Yes, you can. Falling in love with a person does not have to involve being physically close. You can easily fall in love with a person’s personality just by talking to them or video chatting. The emotional bond you can build due to the distance remains unrivaled.
Make it special. If you have to say goodbye to a guy you like and you aren’t going to see them again, plan a date. End it with a hug and a kiss. You want for the goodbye to be a sweet memory that you can cherish forever.
Falling for a person that will be moving can be rough, but once you are sure of how it will end you usually feel better. If you’re in this situation, have you decided what you’re going to do yet? If you’ve been there before, how did you handle it?