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How to Know if A Cancerian Man Likes You More Than A Friend (8 Signs)

Last updated on June 8, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you wondering whether a Cancerian man likes you?

Perhaps there’s a specific guy who is dropping some hints that are hard to read?

Maybe it seems like he’s flirting, but you’re not sure. 

If so, read on. This article lists 8 telltale signs that a Cancerian is attracted to you. 

However, before we dive in, please take the time to read these few sentences carefully.

I wasted so many years chasing guys who really didn’t care about me.

At times, it felt like I’d never find a man who truly loved me.  

But everything changed when I discovered a little-known aspect of male psychology... 

It’s called the ‘Hero Instinct’. A deeply primal instinct that all men seem to hold onto.   

When you learn how to trigger this, it’s common that men become incredibly attached to you. 

A deep understanding of this psychology can be the difference between him seeing you as a friend or as a romantic partner (read my personal story to learn more). 

This is an incredibly powerful skill. Yet, so few people seem to be aware of it. 

If you’re looking to make a lasting impression on a man, I’d invite you to learn more about how I discovered the ‘Hero’s Instinct’. 

Of course, it may be that this Cancerian is already really into you. The guide below will help you realise whether this is true. 

The Signs a Cancerian Man Likes You

A Cancerian man is an ideal romantic partner but getting them to that stage can take some real work! If you are interested in a Cancerian man, you may find that you have time on your hands whilst you let your relationship grow, even as friends. He might seem guarded and you may be unsure if he really likes you. The good news is that a Cancerian man is able to show his emotions freely and places lots of value on open conversations. A Cancerian man who likes you won’t play games, so if you have noticed that he is keen to spend time one on one with you, then you are sure that he really does like you. This isn’t a sign who will just string you along!

1. He’s spending more time with you

A Cancerian man is keen to find out as much as possible about a potential mate before he commits his heart and soul. If you are friends with a Cancerian man or even aquantainces you could easily mistake this for mere friendliness – the dreaded friend zone - but look out for the telling signs he has other ideas! If he likes you in that way, he will be asking questions that surely no one else would be interested in. From what your childhood dog was called to your favourite dream destination, it’s like the Cancerian man is gathering up information to build a real picture of you. If this is happening, it’s not a test, but simply a way to see how you look at the World. He really does want to know you inside out! Take a look at how he speaks to you against how he speaks to other friends. Are any topics different with you? Is there a deeper connection in place?

2. He’s relaxing

A true Cancerian man may start of shy and fidgety around you as he learns to feel comfortable and that’s totally normal. This is just the nature of the zodiac sign and unlike a Leo, booming into the room, a Cancerian man will take everything in and listen more than he talks. If he is starting to enjoy talking, you will be getting to know the real him. You will notice that he starts to enjoy spending more time with you, perhaps at home or away from a group and will likely be doing everything he can to carve out extra alone time with you. This is a really great sign that he already likes what he sees and wants to know more!

3. He’s showing he likes you by giving gifts and kind gestures

A Cancerian man might not be one to give flashy gifts but he will be using his mind to put together something thoughtful for you. Maybe it’s a playlist or sending you a funny video after a bad day at work. Perhaps it’s something bigger, or even just a text on an anniversary of an important date to you. Take this for the gesture that it is, a sign that he has used all this invaluable information about you to help create a further connection with you and is interested in seeing where the relationship might go. You may want to repay the favour, something sure to make him feel comfortable and wanted.

4. He’s nagging you!

It sounds like a bad thing, but is he is nagging you to stop smoking, to eat more greens or to get that report done in time to meet your deadline it’s a sure sign that a Cancerian man likes you! This way of protecting you from negative consequences is one of the ways he is showing his true feelings and although you can of course tell him where to get off, this is a clue that he feels he wants to protect you and be an important future in your life for the long term.

5. He’s physically around

It sounds simple but a Cancer man who is starting to like you will be physically there as much as possible and will start to be more affectionate. They love being with someone and seeking to give security as they would love to receive, so you will find that a Cancer man who likes you will find the time to stay in touch, either face to face or through the phone. You might even see that he flirts with you, and you should encourage this and flirt back to give him the confidence he needs! Also look out to see if he is there when you need support. A good sign will be offering to be there for medical appointments or anywhere where he can nurture and be useful.

6. He’s putting you off other men

 A Cancerian rules with their emotions and are likely to be someone who has their heart on their sleeve. The worst trait is the jealously borne from this and if a Cancerian man is starting to like you, he might start to show signs of being perturbed by other men in your life or try putting them down. He isn’t a pack animal and might not have a big gang of friends you have to bond with, so any other males might be seen as a threat and out come those claws! This is all part of his way of showing you that he is your protector and he is able to step into that role. Whilst sweet, remind him it isn’t 18797 and you can handle yourself, but take it as a compliment and a good sign that he really does like you.

7. He’s not averse to a hug

If its’ early days of knowing a Cancerian man, a hug might not seem much, but for them, this public display of affection is a sure sign that you have earned his trust. As a sign connected with nurturing and home, family and trust, physical contact is something that tends to be earned and given seriously, rather than a frivolous gesture of some of the other bombastic signs! If he is being more affectionate, this is a real sign that he likes you. – he wouldn’t do this with just anyone! Often you don’t read much into low level signs of affection but with a Cancerian man these should be treated as real signs that he likes you and wants to show you this. Lucky you!

8. He’s talking about the future.

Whether you are friends or something more, if you are starting to make an impact in a Cancerian man’s life you will know it because he starts talking in the future. As a natural dreamer with deep thinking tendencies, a Cancerian doesn’t make light decisions quickly and will no doubt have had you on his mind for quite some time. If the conversations start to include you together you can be sure that he truly is thinking of you both as some kind of a pair. He might want to talk about dreams, theories or concepts and will feel a deep connection if you can also share your own. This is a great sign!

If you are interested in seeing if a Cancerian man likes you, simply ask him! This emotional sign is open and happy with face to face conversation and isn’t daunted by the deep. For him, he’s always about fact finding, and ensuring that nothing unpredictable will happen, that he won’t be abandoned at the first sign of danger. If you can prove this you will be well on your way to showing this Cancerian that you are the one for him.

Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you?
The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. The number #1 factor that causes men to behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can say to him.

Take this quick quiz to see if he actually likes you!

Do you agree with all the characteristics of Cancerian man here? What about your Cancerian, does he seem to like you or are there problems in how he acts around you?

Share this article with someone you know who would love to know how partner with the Cancerian man  in their life, we’d love to hear the success stories!

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

8 comments on “How to Know if A Cancerian Man Likes You More Than A Friend (8 Signs)”

  1. The signs shows that he likes me but I don’t know for sure yet the man is cancer I’m a Virgo woman it’s hard for us because we are both shy

    1. Just tell him how you feel and if he likes you, he will greatly appreciate it and will open up to you too. We love to share our emotions however it is hard for us to figure out the right timing and not be 'too much' with our feelings.. good luck! I'm male cancer, 07/1994

  2. I met my Cancerian , Feb /2020 we went on our first date ( dinner and a movie) he was so sweet and attentive, making sure i was comfortable, he touched me so dam softly on my arm that it gave me goose-bumps. After our movie we went for dinner and he gave me a stare while we were talking and i was thinking" is flirting with me ?" and after i read the info on his sign , i found out he was flirting and that is a sign that hes attracted to me. I felt like i was the one talking the most during dinner, and in the back of my mind wondering if that meant i was the only one interested in getting to know each other , it still ended being a nice date because i was able to engage him and make him laugh. When i got home i felt a little weird because i was thinking that he's probably not that in to me because he did not ask me too many questions even though he texted me all the time; anyway he sent me a text later that night letting me know that he had a wonderful time, he loved my attitude , my smile ETC..and he was really looking forward to the next date

  3. Hi I am a Virgo woman and my male friend is a cancer whom I have been friends with for some time.
    I have liked him for awhile now and some days Ive felt it to be mutual and other days I am not so sure. Please can you help me

  4. I had a date with a cancer man. We slept together. We texted a little for 2 weeks. I impatiently dropped him. He found me on the dating site. Messaged me he can't stop thinking about me and wants to see me when he gets back. He's with his Extended family he will message me in a week.
    Is he really interested. Or is it a weird game.

  5. Help! I need answers please! So, I met ♋️ on a dating site, first off he’s 13 years younger than me and claims to love older women. We hit it off instantly 3 weeks of us talking he came over and we enjoyed each other’s company mentally and physically!! Soon later or conversation became less and he always claimed to be working but if I need him “ he got me”. Finally almost a month later of not seeing each other and light conversation in between time he asked to come over. When he did he brought my favorite wine and asked me to have a child with him!?! We’ve only known each other for 3 months and seen each other twice. He began to hug me, play with my hair and let me more inside of his world. I’m so confused should I give it up or give him a try?

  6. Cancer man here,I HOPE the nagging isn't true, but otherwise this list looks spot on (sorry about the jealousy!), I've only known one other Cancer (a woman I still mourn over a decade after her suicide) so I'm pretty much projecting from myself.
    Tries not to show too much interest too fast, inside have already named the children.
    Doesn't remember long ago "like it was yesterday", remembers it BETTER than yesterday.
    Still in love with ALL his "exes" will love you more once he trusts you.
    Very impressed by educated, literate,and hip ladies but idealizes domestic life.
    Will cry listening to old songs and watching old movies.
    If he doesn't think you're smarter than him he's less likely to fall in love with you.
    Really likes brining you flowers.
    Still baffled by new things years after most have learned them.
    Even as a teenager was out of date and listening to grandparents records.
    "Been there, done that" is the opposite of his attitude, will still want to go back to "that little restaurant we had our second date in" years later.
    Moody, and when happy is also remembering happy times from years ago, when sullen is also remembering past hurts.
    Aloof at first, clingy and jealous later.
    Daydreams - a lot.
    Loves to cook you a meal, but only knows a few recipes and suggestions for ingredient substitutions confuse him.
    Acts old when young, looks young when old.
    He probably did eat all the chocolate and is ashamed about it.
    Slow dancing to an old song at home (likely in the kitchen) is almost perfect happiness for him.
    Will give the kids cookies, even when they're supposed to "eat healthy".
    Will still remember you, maybe too much.

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