Have you become suspicious about your husband’s cellphone usage?
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Is he acting in a way that makes you think he’s cheating on you?
Do you wish there was a way to address this behaviour and find out what he’s up to?
If so, read on because I’ll reveal the 10 telltale cellphone signs of a cheating husband in this article.
However, before I do, it’s important that you’re aware of the reality of your situation.
The truth is: it’s unlikely you’ll ever be able to fully erase your suspicions, without getting proof that your husband has been cheating or not.
There is no point confronting him without evidence of wrongdoing either, as he’ll just deny it and you’ll have no way of proving he’s lying.
That’s why I wanted to recommend this powerful online tracking tool which can reveal whether your spouse has been up to no good.
With just a few of his details, it can produce an extensive record of his recent communications, and there’s no way for him to tell that you did so!
The record will reveal who he’s been frequently communicating with, what smartphone apps he’s been downloading and whether he has any secret telephone numbers. That’s just the tip of the iceberg too.
Long story short, if your husband has been unfaithful to you, this tracking tool should make it immediately obvious.
Our list of behavioural cues below will help you decide if you are right to be suspicious of him.
If your husband seems to be using his phone a lot more than usual this can be a cause for concern. But first, let’s look at the positive aspects. It could mean that work is busier than ever for him, or he could be keeping in touch with his family more. This would pose absolutely no threat to your relationship, so there would be no need to worry about it if this was the case. However, you need to realize that if he is using his phone innocently, he will be open with you about who he’s talking to and what’s going on.
You need to start worrying if he is being secretive with his phone. If your husband was previously happy to leave his phone anywhere in the house and suddenly his phone can’t leave his side, it might seem strange. Other examples would include him always turning his phone face down if it’s near you, declining incoming calls or being active on his phone late at night.
All of the examples mentioned would imply that he is hiding something for you – most likely an affair.
It would be a bad idea to try and go through snooping for his phone or trying to guess the password, as this will make him more overprotective. The best idea is probably to just ask him why he is being so protective over his phone at the moment.
A trick you could use is to say that your phone has died, or you can’t find it and ask him if you can borrow his phone. His reaction will probably tell you all you need to know. If he is happy to have you search for something on his phone, there most likely won’t be any cheating going on there.
However, if he acts shady or says that you can’t use his phone, you should start to worry. What does he have on there he wants to hide from you?
If your husband is cheating on you, he won’t act stupidly and risk you figuring out what’s going on. So, his idea will be to store the other woman’s name in his phone under an alias name. He could put her number under a name such as ‘X’ or ‘Electrician Woman’. Literately anything could be an alias name.
So, the way that you will be able to figure out if it’s a fake name is if you find frequent calls to a specific contact ID. Does it seem odd that your husband needs to call the Plumber at 11 pm or texts ‘Smith’ with kisses and emojis? Of course, it does.
If you find these types of names in your husband's phone, the best idea is to ask him straight away who each name is. Ask him why he has such strange names in his phone. It’s really important to not say this is an argumentative manner, but possibly make a light joke of it that they are funny names.
Keep it light don’t accuse him of anything until you have further proof.
If you really feel like you need to have a look on his phone, go to the contact and look at the history he has had on his phone with them. Do you notice any phone calls at strange times or is there evidence or a text conversation? If so, then you have your proof.
This is a really common thing that cheaters tend to do. They think it will cover their tracks because there is no trail of their unfaithfulness. However, what they don’t realize is that if you delete all your calls and texts it looks very odd.
Everyone who has a phone will have a history of calls logged on their phone, as well as texts. So it would be a strong sign that your husband is cheating on you if he has no history of speaking to anyone on his phone.
Ask your husband why his phone doesn’t log any of his phone call or text data? Once again, do not accuse him. Simply ask him. Make sure it comes off like you’re confused and interested in why his phone does that. For example, you could say something like, “Oh babe, has your cell phone broken or been wiped? There are no calls, or anything recorded anymore.” Sound inquisitive.
See how he responds to your questioning. If he passes off the comments and tries to move on fast, then he has probably deleted the history so you can’t see it. He might even blush if he’s a bad liar.
If he genuinely doesn’t know why his phone is like that, you’re probably just as confused as he genuinely is.
Of course, there is a certain amount of space you want when you are taking a call. Privacy is important when you’re on the phone and everyone understands that. However, if your husband has started taking his phone calls outside the house this is concerning.
Once or twice could be explainable. It could have been work or his mother wanting to speak to him in private. But you might have good reason to worry if your husband is constantly taking phone calls away from you.
Another sign related to this would be if you are nearby, he will move away so you cant hear what he is talking about. Similarly, if he has started to take a lot of calls in the evenings that he never used to.
The simple thing to do is innocently say something like, “Oh who was that?” or “You know you can phone calls in front of me, don’t worry.” I’m sure that the majority of the time he will lie and say it was a business phone call, or family. But you might be able to tell if he is lying or not by his behavior.
By telling him that you are happy for him to receive calls in front of you, he will probably feel more inclined to be on his phone less.
Of course, if you look at his phone, you can see who he was speaking to. If he told you it was work but then you see, “Rebecca” or an alias name on his phone, you have every right to question that.
A lot of cheaters will never actually save the number of their other woman. This can make it a little harder for you to track down who it is you believe your husband is having an affair with, or even confirm if he is having an affair.
But have a good think about it. Does he take a lot of calls from a certain unknown number at a certain time? Have you still not been told who it is or why they are calling? This is definitely a red flag. There is no reason for your husband not to save someone’s number unless he has something to hide.
One of the things you could do is have a look at the cell phone provider’s bill and see if a certain unknown number is coming through to your husband's phone frequently.
Alternatively, you could have a look at his call history on his cell phone, if he hasn’t deleted it already.
After you have found the number, you could try and find out who’s the number is, and if not you could just ask who he is constantly calling.
Very common things that cheaters will do is hide while they are speaking to the other woman. For example, they might lock themselves in the bathroom and whisper on the phone to her. Do you often notice that your husband spends a lot of time with his phone, locked away from you or hiding around the house from you?
Similarly, if you interrupt him whilst he is hiding or on the phone, does he get mad or put the phone down straight away? None of this is normal behavior and you have every right to get mad or upset if your husband is acting like this.
The only saving grace could be that your husband is hiding from you and being secretive because he is planning a surprise for you. Although, this kind of behavior will most likely last for only a short period of time if that is the reason. So, if this kind of behaviour is a continual problem, it needs to be addressed.
This kind of shady behavior should not be tolerated, so you should definitely speak up and confront him about it. It really is as simple as that. He is displaying obvious signs of having a secret to hide, so you should tell him how it makes you feel.
As stupid as it might sound, some cheaters actually have photos of the person they are having an affair with. These photos could be of them both together, or just her. They could even be sexual images of her that she has sent. These photos would then obviously be stored on your husband’s cell phone.
You might be able to see photos on your partner's phone of the other woman. However, if your partner is hiding his phone from you, there may be other ways to see the photos on his phone that even he doesn’t realize.
Don’t worry you don’t need to be the world's best spy to do this. If you are married, you most likely will not only share phone bills, but you will probably share The Cloud (iPhone). If your husband has backed up his phone on the Cloud, it may be possible to see what photos he has on his phone, from your computer or Apple Account.
A photo of another woman on your husband’s phone is pretty strong proof that he is having an affair on you. Unless it is a friend or family member, it is quite unusual for a man to have photos of a different woman that isn’t his wife, on his phone.
My advice would be to call him out straight away on this. Previously I have said to not come across like you’re accusing him. However, if you have just found a photo of a naked woman on your husband’s phone, you can accuse him as much as you like. It is a pretty sure sign that he is or has been cheating on you.
This is a pretty serious sign. If you find out that your husband is using a second phone and making calls of there, it might be difficult to access it or access the bill. He could have taken out a second contract or it could be a phone given to him by work.
Of course, if your husband was honest with you about having a second phone, then this is absolutely no problem. However, if he withheld the fact that he had a second phone from you, this can be a red flag. You have no way to track what’s happening on this phone, and you might not even know what he has a second phone.
If you find a second phone, be upfront and honest with him. Just ask him. Don’t accuse him but maybe you could say something like, “Oh I didn’t realize you had another phone, is that to do with work?” and see how he responds. If he fumbles his words or looks like he’s been caught out, he’s most likely using it to speak to another woman.
It might be really alarming to see how often your husband uses social media. Too much online usage isn’t good for anyone, but the problems start when you start to realize what he is doing on social media.
Perhaps you might come to find that he has multiple accounts on different social media platforms or that he is speaking to a large number of women on there or just one in particular.
Nowadays there is so much ‘choice’ on social media. People are only a click away, and he might be enticed by that.
If you find evidence of him having multiple accounts on social media or speaking to other women on social media, speak to him. Tell him that you are concerned about how much time he is spending on social media, but also about your relationship and his faithfulness.
Most people will always have their email accounts linked to their phones, for ease. As this is a super easy option for everyone to get their emails to their phone, you might want to ask yourself why he hasn’t linked this up yet. Perhaps he is trying to hide his contact with another woman from you?
This will be one of the only signs that stand out alone on this list. This is for the reason that if he doesn’t have the other woman contacting him directly through his phone, he will most likely be more than happy for you to go on his phone, look through his calls and texts, etc.
Look out for this one.
Ask him why he hasn’t got his email linked up to his phone. Tell him it’s a really easy option. If he still hasn’t made the change to put his email on his phone within a few days or weeks, you could maybe offer to show him. If he is standoffish about it, then he might just well have something to hide on his email account.
I really hope that with the help of this article you will now be able to use the knowledge you have gained to see the signs of a cheating husband. You need to remember that you are a strong woman who is deserving of a faithful and secure relationship.
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