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Should Couples Have Each Other's Passwords? (5 Risky Reasons)

Last updated on June 4, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you concerned that your partner keeps pressuring you into giving them your passwords? Perhaps you think it’s normal that couples are sharing passwords with each other more and more? Or maybe you’re the one that’s trying to get your partner to share passwords with you? 

Whatever specific situation you’re in, and whether you and your partner are thinking about sharing your passwords for increased trust or simply for ease, the concept of password sharing (something that gains someone access to all of your personal information) can be incredibly daunting, and for good reason.

In this article, we’re going to be sharing the 5 reasons why sharing passwords is never a good idea! So, before you go running to your partner and spilling your top-secret passwords, read this article, and then decide whether you still want to make that decision!

5 Reasons Why Couple Should Not Have Each Other’s Password

1. It is a symptom of controlling behavior

Most of the time, if a partner is asking you to share passwords with them, it will be because they’re controlling you, or attempting to control you. If your partner is asking, or demanding, that you share passwords, it clearly means that they think the relationship has a lack of trust, and they want to make sure that you’re not doing anything that’s considered wrong in their eyes.

If your partner tries to control you in other areas of your life or begs or demands you to give them your password, it’s a huge red flag - run as fast as possible in the opposite direction!

2. It could spark jealousy

It could spark jealousy

Although you and your partner probably both have nothing to hide, having access to each other’s messages and social media profiles could actually do more damage than it’s worth. Seeing each other’s messages from friends and acquaintances can lead to trust issues, even if no one is doing anything wrong.

3. You give away your privacy

Privacy isn’t a bad thing to have in a relationship, as long as there’s also trust, respect, and honesty. Being private, especially when it comes to your digital life, can actually be great - you can speak to your friends and family openly, get advice from your closest people and search for whatever you want to! 

However, when you engage with password sharing, your private life is immediately taken away from you, so don’t even think about speaking to your bestie about how you argued with your partner earlier, because they will be reading everything!

4. If you break-up, your partner might leak your information as revenge

Although you might not want to think about ever breaking up with your partner, sometimes it’s vital that you think about the long term effects of a situation, and this is one of those cases. If your relationship ends, your partner might use the information that they have (from having access to your messages and accounts), against you in an act of revenge. 

Sometimes this can go as far as your partner putting out revenge porn, or with your partner trying to incriminate you.

5. If you break-up, your partner might continue to see your accounts

Again, although you might not want to think about your relationship ending, if it does and your partner has access to your accounts, they will be able to see exactly what you’re doing, where you are, who you’re speaking to, and how you're feeling, this can make you feel spied on and violated. 

Your partner might also manipulate you and any potential relationships that they think you could be engaging in, in the future, by knowing exactly how you feel and what’s going on in your daily life through reading text messages, checking your email account, and searching through your social media DM’s,


Should couples have access to each other’s Facebook?

It’s completely up to each individual couple as to whether they want to have access to each other’s Facebook accounts, or other social media accounts. However, since it could actually be a symptom of controlling behavior, it reduces privacy, it could spark jealousy and it could be used against you if you break-up, it’s not typically a good idea for couples to have access to each other’s accounts.

Is it wrong to ask for your boyfriend’s Facebook password?

The first thing you actually need to ask yourself is, why do you want your boyfriend’s Facebook password? As long as you trust your boyfriend, you shouldn’t need to have any of his social media logins or passwords, meaning that if you’re asking for his password, it’s probably because you don’t trust him and want to snoop on his Facebook! So, essentially, yes, it is wrong - you should trust your partner, not have to have his logins to his social media accounts.

Should I give my boyfriend my phone password?

It’s completely up to you whether you give your boyfriend the password to your phone or not. If you feel comfortable with your partner knowing your phone password and he’s not snooping on your phone or demanding that you share your password with him, it might be OK. However, if your partner is demanding that you tell him your phone password or he’s trying to access your phone and look at your personal details, it’s a bad sign and you shouldn’t give him your password.

Why should you never share your password?

The 5 reasons above in this article tell you why you shouldn’t share your password with your partner - it can cause trust issues, it can be a sign of control or lead to controlling behavior, your personal information can be used as revenge if you break-up and you’re giving away your independent privacy. To add to this list, you should never give your password to someone (not just your partner) because they may use it to incriminate you.

Is it OK to have privacy in a relationship?

It’s definitely OK to have privacy in a relationship, in fact, having personal boundaries is essential and healthy. As long as the relationship is built on trust and honesty, there’s nothing wrong with both partners being private and respecting the privacy of each other.

To Conclude

If you were thinking of sharing your passwords with your partner or you think that it’s a necessity for couples to share their passwords with one another, hopefully by reading this article you know that sharing such personal information isn’t a good idea, even in a relationship! 

Of course, some people may have their reasons for sharing passwords, but typically, personal boundaries should be respected in a relationship, so sharing passwords is a no-no. Did you like this article and find it useful? Let us know in the comments and feel free to share with someone you feel needs to read this.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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