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Will I Be Single Forever? (27 Signs You May or May Not)

by Sonya Schwartz

If you’ve been single for a long time, you might find that the question ‘will I be alone forever?” is popping into your head a lot, and quite often the answer coming back from your mind will brutally be ‘I will be single forever”. This is not the case at all. If you want to find love and you’re willing to open yourself up to the idea of falling in love, you will find someone, it sometimes just takes time and understanding. 

It’s vital to say that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single forever if that’s your personal choice. A lot of people love being single and never have the urge to look for a life partner, or never settle down with one person and instead have an array of fulfilling relationships. If you’re happy and single, then that’s awesome, and don’t listen to anyone that tries to tell you otherwise. 

However, this article is for those that are concerned that they might never find their significant other and therefore we’re going to take a look at 27 things you can do to make sure that you’re not gonna be single in the long run. Let’s jump straight in!

1. Start loving yourself.

One of the biggest reasons you might not have met the right person yet is because you don’t love yourself. Although it sounds cliche, loving yourself is one of the most important things you need to do in life, not only because it will inspire self-worth and self-confidence, but also because once you love yourself you attract more love into your life. If you lack self-love, you might come across as needy or damaged to potential partners, and they will either run a mile or they’ll be the wrong type of person.

2. Realize you can be happy without someone by your side.

If you feel like you need someone by your side to make you feel complete, this could actually be one of the reasons no one is by your side. The last thing people look for when trying to find a partner is someone needy and insecure. You need to realize that you can be happy on your own, so strive to be happy by yourself. Then, all of the happiness and confidence you’re channeling will be received well by potential partners. 

3. Figure out what you want from life.

When you’re single and looking for love, one of the most important things you need to do is think about what you really want from life, so you can make sure that you choose to date others that have similar aspirations. So, ask yourself where you want to be in five years’ time, and then start working towards that goal - you’ll most likely meet someone along the way.

4. Figure out what you want in a partner.

As well as figuring out what you really want in life, it’s a good idea to have a list of qualities of the man you’re looking for, so you know what you’re searching for. A lot of the time, people have no idea what they actually want in a partner, and they find themselves in a relationship with someone who’s less than perfect for them. What are you looking for in a perfect partner? Think less about looks and more about personality traits.

5. Make sure you’re over your ex-partner.

If you’re finding it difficult to move forward with anyone new, it could be because you’re still stuck in past. You could be holding yourself back if you’re still thinking about your ex, and you might even be comparing every person you meet with them. You need to get closure from this previous relationship and realize you need to move on from that person because they’re holding you back. 

It’s also helpful to understand that your ex isn’t the definition of perfection, so you can stop comparing everyone to him. 

6. Work through any commitment issues or trust issues you might have.

If you’re scared of commitment or have issues when it comes to trusting someone with your heart, you need to work on these problems before you start trying to find someone to be in a relationship with. These kinds of issues are caused by past relationships, so it’s important that you deal with them before you bring them forward into any new relationships, as it’s not fair on your future partner.

7. Join clubs and groups.

Join clubs and groups

A great way to meet someone is by getting involved in groups or joining clubs that do something together you’re interested in. It’s important to meet new people if you’re looking for love, and joining a club is a great way of potentially meeting someone because not only will they have similar interests to you, but you will be in a sober, safe environment to get to know each other.

8. Make sure you socialize.

Even if you’re not keen on joining a group or club in your area, you need to make sure you get out of the house and socialize, otherwise, you’re never going to meet someone. You need to physically be in a place where you have the opportunity to meet a potential partner, so go out with your girlfriends, head to the gym, switch the living room for the coffee shop - get out more.

9. Give up your judgment of dating apps.

So many people judge dating apps before even giving them a go. Dating apps don’t always work for everyone, but they are a fantastic way for single people can connect, especially if you don’t feel super confident with going out and socializing or striking up conversations with new people. Everyone should try dating apps once in their life, so, get rid of any judgment towards the online world of romance and give it a go - you have nothing to lose!

10. Prioritize dating.

Obviously, if you want to find the one, you’re going to need to prioritize dating! Normally, people will miraculously come into your life at the right time, but sometimes you will need to put more effort into finding someone, especially if you don’t have the patience to wait until the ‘right time’. So, if you don’t want to be single anymore, start to prioritize dating and find yourself the right person!

11. Allow people to get to know you.

To put it plainly, no one wants to be with someone that never opens up,  because it’s so difficult to get to know them. You need to make sure that you’re open to a certain extent and you allow people to get to know you. Of course, you don’t need to tell every single detail of your life on the first date, but you do need to open up enough that people can actually get to know you. 

12. Don’t be scared of rejection.

When you’re looking for love, you need to let go of the fear of rejection. Of course, no one enjoys getting rejected, but you can’t be scared of it, otherwise, you’ll never take a chance on anyone and ultimately you’ll never find love. Be brave.

13. Evaluate your standards.

Do you think you have exceptionally high standards? Or perhaps you have the bar set too low? If you find yourself single, or you seem to always go for the wrong type of person that hurts you, it might be a good time to evaluate your standards. If you have standards that are too high you might never meet anyone that lives up to them, but if you set them too low you might be going for the wrong type of guys. It’s good to have standards, but make sure you keep them reasonable.

14. Don’t let family or friends pressurize you. 

If you let your family or friends pressure you into dating someone or dating at all, you’ll never find your life partner, instead, you’ll find the person they want you to be with. If you’re looking for a relationship, then that’s great, but don’t let outside forces pressurize you into anything, especially when it comes to your love life.

15. Don’t let your biological clock pressurize you.

A lot of women get extremely worried about being single when they reach a certain age, so they pressurize themselves into finding a partner. If you are in this situation and you’re worried that your biological clock is ticking, you need to try your best to calm down (easier said than done, I understand). If you go onto the dating scene with the idea of finding a baby daddy, you’ll probably have very little luck. Look for love, not for baby-making. 

16. Strike up conversations with strangers.

How beautiful is it when you hear all of those love stories about people falling in love with a stranger they sparked a conversation with? So beautiful! We all want to have that magical connection with a stranger in real life, especially with online dating becoming such a new norm. So, it’s simple - start conversations with people that you’re attracted to. The next time you see a cute guy waiting in front of you in line, say hi.

17. Don’t be intimated by dating.

Many people find the prospect of dating really daunting, and therefore they shy away from dating whilst at the same time longing to fall head over heels with someone. The truth is, you’re not going to find love if you don’t date, so you’re going to have to get over the scariness of dating. The truth is, the nerves you feel before a date will most likely be felt by the other person too.

18. Widen your search.

Many singles struggle with the fact that everyone, especially their friends, seem to be happy coupled up, and they can’t even find a suitable potential date. The truth is, especially if you live rurally or have a small social circle, there might actually be a lack of single people in your area. So, you might need to widen your search slightly - go to events in a bigger town, travel, look further afield on dating apps! 

19. Master the art of flirting.

Master the art of flirting

Unfortunately, you might just still be single because the truth is, you can’t flirt to save your life! There might be many men interested in you, but if they don’t know that you’re also interested in them, they won’t take things any further with you. However, this is easy to fix - it’s time to brush up those flirting skills and see if you then command anyone’s attention.

20. Stay away from one-night stands.

As much as one-night stands are fun, exciting and most of the time pleasurable, if you’re looking for a long-term relationship, stop having them. In a long term relationship, sex is important and therefore you don’t want to ruin it for yourself and see sex as an emotionless act going forward. Also, you’re very rarely going to find the perfect partner for you by having a one-night stand. 

21. Know your red flags.

As much as it’s important to know what qualities you want in the perfect partner, it’s also important to know what you don’t want. It’s beneficial to have a list of the qualities you definitely don’t want in a partner in your head, so you can identify any red flags whilst dating and put an end to the relationship before it goes further and you get hurt.

22. Surround yourself with other singles.

It can seem disappointing when you’re the only single person around your married or coupled-up friends, so it’s a good idea to surround yourself with other single people too. Not only can you go to fun events like speed dating with other single friends, but you might be able to relate to them more.

23. Stop focusing on looks so much.

Although you might want your next partner to have particular aesthetic traits, that’s not what’s really important in a relationship. Obviously, you need to be initially attracted to someone that you’re going to date, but you should focus more on personality rather than looks if you’re looking for a long term relationship.

24. Stop serial dating.

If you’re jumping from man to man, it might be a good idea to stop for a while and see what happens. If you’re a serial dater, you will have gotten too used to meeting new people and going on exciting dates with new people. Or on the flip side, you might be losing hope and getting frustrated that you haven’t found the one for you yet.

25. Connect with people on social media.

Connect with people on social media

Social media is actually a great way to connect with other people, and sites such as Instagram are the platforms for the start of many relationships. If you find someone attractive, and you’re connected to them, drop them a message!

26. Give it time.

If you’re trying to meet the love of your life, you need to be patient and give it time. As modern human beings, we can be impatient and get frustrated quickly. So, be aware that it takes time and don’t expect the perfect man to come along straight away. You might need to date more people than you anticipated before finding your future spouse.

27. Keep believing in love.

Overall, you need to keep the faith and keep believing in love. If you want to find it, true love is out there for you and will come into your life. Everyone has a soul mate, so don’t panic if you haven’t found yours yet.

FAQs

Is it possible to be single forever?

It is possible to be single forever if that is how you choose to spend your life. Everyone is different, and lots of people enjoy and take great pleasure in being forever single. However, if you’re looking for love and don’t want to be single forever, it’s impossible that happiness won’t come your way. If you keep your heart open and want love, it will come - it might take time, but it’ll come.

How do you know if you will be single forever?

If you do the opposite of all of the 27 things in this article, you will most likely be single forever because you’re not allowing yourself to be open and ready for a relationship. Overall, if you stay at home, never prioritize dating, are extremely picky, and don’t think anyone will ever live up to your standards, you could face being single forever.

How do you accept you'll be single forever?

If you fully love yourself and accept yourself, you’re never going to need someone else in your life, and therefore it’s easy to come to terms with being single forever. To accept it, you also need to understand that just because others are in relationships, it doesn’t mean they’re happy.

How do you know if you're meant to be single?

If you’re happy being single and you feel like you don’t want a relationship, then that’s how you know you’re meant to be single. You need to listen to yourself, and if you’re happiest without a partner, then you’re supposed to be single right now.

Is it healthy to be single?

As long as you are happy, it’s healthy! There’s an incredible number of benefits that come with being single that can make you very happy. The main bonus of being single is that you’re free to do whatever you like whenever you want which means you should be happy never answering to anyone.

Conclusion

Don’t panic if you haven’t met the perfect person for you just yet, but if you follow the advice in this article, you will have a better chance of meeting your soulmate quickly. Believe that you will meet someone soon, and you will.

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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