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Why Is He Ignoring My Texts All Of A Sudden (27 Reasons Why)

Last updated on July 5, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Have you been ghosted?

Are you wondering why this could have happened? 

Did it appear to happen out of nowhere? 

Are you wondering why he's taking so long to respond all of a sudden?

If so, this is the guide for you. It reveals the 27 most common reasons why men decide to suddenly stop responding to women’s texts. 

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Why Is He Ignoring My Texts All Of A Sudden?

You can’t help but smile as you get sucked into the conversation. The two of you are sending text messages back throughout the day. Then, there’s silence. He’s suddenly ignoring you. 

Do you instantly start to wonder why is he ignoring my texts all of a sudden? This article will tell you everything you need to know about his sudden silence. 

If you notice that he’s suddenly not sending text messages back, there is a reason for the sudden silence. This list of reasons is the most common reasons why you might not be receiving text messages like you were before. 

1. He’s losing interest

While you might not want to admit it to yourself, there’s a chance that he’s losing interest. This could be one of the reasons he's leaving you on read all of a sudden.

Instead of accepting that, consider sending him something that you know he’ll find interesting. Send him the link to an event nearby or a funny meme. If he still doesn’t respond, sit back and wait. There may be another reason.

2. He totally forgot

It happens. He looked at his phone, meant to text you back, and then completely forgot to send the text. Sometimes, people simply get distracted. Try not to take it personally unless you know that you have a reason to. 

Normally, I would recommend not double texting. However, there’s nothing wrong with sending a quick follow-up text a few days later to make sure that he’s ignoring you. Send him a quick “hey stranger” text and see if he responds. If he still doesn’t respond to you, there’s a good chance that he isn’t going to. That means that it’s time for you to move on. 

3. He’s playing hard to get

While women seem to be famous for playing hard to get, let’s not forget that men like to play this game too. He’ll ignore you or pretend to lose interest to make you chase him. If the guy you’re interested in is giving you hot and cold signals and not responding right now, there’s a good chance that he’s playing hard to get

4. He’s genuinely busy

If you’re wondering why he is ignoring my texts, you need to take into account that he might genuinely be busy. Some guys just start ignoring their phones when they are busy with a project. For example, your man can’t simultaneously work on a car and hold a phone in his hand. Give him some time, and he’ll respond when he’s done. 

5. He doesn’t like texting

Sometimes, he suddenly stops texting because he doesn’t like to text all the time. Men don’t enjoy being glued to their phones all day, every day of the week. Instead, he’d much rather be spending time with you. He’d prefer to hear about your week on a date night than for you to text him every detail of your day as it unfolds. 

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6. Constant communication is boring

Sometimes, other people simply don’t like to be in constant communication with someone else. They don’t want to hear all of the details of your day. Not only is this very time-consuming, but it can also make a relationship very boring. What are the two of you going to talk about when you go on a date if he already knows every detail of every minute of your life?

7. He’s out with his friends

hes out with his friends

When guys hang out together, they usually spend time together. They do not spend all night sitting on social media, taking selfies, or texting other people. Instead, they’re more likely to put their phone in their pocket and forget about it. 

If the two of you have not been talking long enough for him to feel the need to let you know that he has other plans, you need to consider that this could be the reason it seems like he’s ignoring your texts. He probably hasn’t even checked his phone. 

8. Work is keeping him busy

He knows that as soon as he responds to one of your messages, it’s going to start a conversation. So, instead of responding to one message, he waits until he has some free time to have a conversation with you. 

If your future boyfriend works a job in which he is not allowed to have his phone out, that could be why he’s not responding. He’ll text you back on his break or when he gets off work. Try to be more understanding of his work schedule. 

9. He’s trying to be mysterious

A guy that is a hopeless romantic is not going to like texting all day. Instead, he wants to be mysterious to make you like him more. It will seem like he’s playing mind games, but really he just likes you a lot. 

10. He thinks he said the wrong thing

Guys can get embarrassed easily if they like a girl. If he’s afraid that he said the wrong thing, he might simply toss his phone to the other side of the room and start ignoring your texts to avoid an uncomfortable situation. 

Give him some time to calm himself down. He’s bound to look at his phone eventually. 

When the two of you do go out together, keep an eye on his body language to see if he’s still feeling anxious. Men that are anxious will have nervous body movements, such as fidgeting, sweaty palms, and a hard time maintaining eye contact. 

11. He’s playing video games

If he’s a guy that is into video game playing, don’t expect him to instantly text back. This is especially true if he’s playing online. You cannot pause an online game, and if he stops playing his game there is a good chance that he will die. You’ll simply have to wait until he’s done. 

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12. There is not any chemistry

Instead of having an awkward conversation to tell you that he’s no longer interested, it’s easier if he starts ignoring your texts. This saves him from having to tell you that he doesn’t think that the two of you have a future together. Instead, you’ll simply quit texting him eventually. 

13. He’s giving you the silent treatment

There’s a chance that he’s angry, and being childish. Men that stop text messaging because they are angry are trying to manipulate you and punish you into doing what they would like for you to do. 

This is a serious red flag. If he goes ghost for days on end because he’s mad at you, walk away. You don’t want to try to make a relationship work if a man ignores you every time you do something he doesn’t like. 

14. He thinks you’re needy

he thinks youre needy

If you want to text all the time, it can give the impression that you’re desperate or clingy. When women act like this, it can make a man pull away from them. Instead of sending him one text message after another, simply don’t text him again until he texts you. This will show him that you’re not needy, and help you reel him back in. 

Once you start talking to him again, don’t try to stay in constant contact. Avoid sending him messages into the wee hours of the morning. Instead, text him sporadically and keep your cool if he doesn’t text back or is busy. 

15. He’s playing games

One week he’s into you, and then suddenly you don’t hear from him for three days at a time. You check to make sure that you didn’t accidentally block his number. You know that you’re not texting him during work hours. It leaves you confused and wondering what his deal is. There’s a big chance that he’s playing games

Guys that are playing games don’t want anything serious with you. He could only be texting you when he’s bored, or when his girlfriend is out of the house. He may just be breadcrumbing you to keep you around in case things don’t work out with another girl. 

Watch for other signs that he doesn’t want something serious to see if he’s just playing with your emotions. He won’t want to meet your friends and family. Dates often involve going out of town or back to his place. Instead of asking about your day or your life, he asks what you’re wearing. Conversations about the future simply don’t happen. 

16. He’s scared

When guys are scared of commitment or relationships, they tend to get quiet once they start to catch feelings.

In the beginning, things were wonderful. Then, he started to get attached to you. As soon as he started to get attached, he suddenly started ignoring you. 

He needs time to pull away and sort out his feelings. Instead of trying to force him to open up, or attempting to pull him closer, let him sort things out. Being clingy will make him pull away further. He’ll come back to you once he’s got his emotions figured out. 

17. He needs space

Sometimes, we all need a little bit of space. Guys might stop messaging because they don’t like to feel trapped in a conversation that can last all day, especially when they need some personal space. 

Men that have gone through a traumatic event recently, such as a loved one passing away, will need more space than they normally would. Respect his need for space and try not to pressure him into giving you more of his time. He will let you know when he’s ready to spend time together. 

18. He’s texting other girls

If the two of you have yet to start officially dating, he may have started dating someone else. Instead of telling you, he decided that suddenly ignoring your texts was the best idea. Consider it a blessing that he’s not going to stick around. If he can’t handle having that conversation, he obviously needs to work on his communication skills. 

19. He’s not okay

This is the worst-case scenario, but it is possible. He could have been in a car accident and is in a coma. You never know what another person is going through, so try to keep your cool. Don’t leave voicemails cussing him out. Instead, simply move on with your life. 

20. He lost his phone

If the two of you started texting every day, but you don’t hear from him, consider the possibility that he doesn’t have his phone. I’ve left my phone in the bathroom at Walgreens and Speedway before. I lose my phone at least once per day. There’s a chance that he doesn’t even know that you’re texting him. 

This is one of the reasons why you need to stay cool instead of assuming the worst. Do not act like it’s a big deal or blow up his phone. If he did lose his phone, you don’t want him to unlock his phone to be on the receiving end of several rude messages and voicemails. There’s a good chance he won’t feel the need to respond. 

21. You weren’t the same as you were online

you werent the same as you were online

Maybe you didn’t flat out catfish him, but we do tend to put our best foot forward in online dating profiles. That could be the reason why he’s ignoring you. 

I had a friend that met a girl online. She posted headshots and did not mention her weight. When she showed up, she was clearly overweight, which was not his preference, and her face did not look the same that it did in pictures. He was polite during dinner but did not want to talk to her afterward. He felt that she intentionally misled him, so he did not feel the need to have a talk with her about it. 

This can also happen if you act more energetic online or have a friend help you talk to people online. Instead, be yourself. There’s nothing wrong with who you are as a person. 

22. You texted multiple times in a row

This is an easy way to make a guy pull back, especially if the two of you haven’t started dating yet. There’s nothing wrong with texting a couple of times, but you shouldn’t blow up his phone. This is especially important during the early days of getting to know each other. 

In general, men like to chase women. If you’re texting him too much, it can lead to you chasing him. He’ll pull away and lose interest. 

He may have already lost interest. If not, he’ll text you back after you stop texting him. Simply wait a few days. 

23. You’re too available

When you’re always available, guys tend to get bored and give up. There’s nothing wrong with being available, but it’s important to maintain a perfect balance in the beginning. 

You don’t want to be available all of the time. Instead of texting back immediately, wait an hour or two. Let him know that you’re sorry for the delayed response but you were busy with (insert activity that you were busy doing.) It’s critical to let him know that you aren’t ignoring him. 

You don’t always want to be available when he wants to go out either. It can be hard to say no when you’re dying to see him, but you’ll have to be busy every so often. Let him know that you already have plans, and then offer to reschedule dates. This will keep him chasing you and will guarantee that he doesn’t get too bored. 

24. Things are moving too fast

A common reason that a guy will start ignoring you all of a sudden is because things suddenly started moving too fast. If you mentioned having children, how the two of you could be in a great relationship or any other future plans, he might feel that things are moving too fast. 

Instead, learn to take things a little slower. Let him set the pace for the talking stage, and open up about how you feel regarding your future together when he mentions it. If he starts texting back, don’t mention the future again until he does. 

25. He really sucks when it comes to texting

Sometimes, he’s not really ignoring you. He could genuinely be horrible at texting. He forgets that he was supposed to be texting you back. Maybe he’s a dry texter and he knows it. Whatever the reason, he’s simply not good at it. 

Instead of ignoring him, try to switch things over to phone conversations. Ask him if you can call him before bed, and see if his energy towards you changes. If it does, he’s just a bad texter. 

26. He feels awkward

Has he been out of the dating game for a while? Did he accidentally say the L word before getting off the phone? Perhaps he said something else to make things awkward. Guys that find themselves in that situation are probably too embarrassed to keep texting back. 

Instead of ignoring him, simply invite him out. Tell him that you’d love to go to the movies, and don’t mention whatever awkward thing he did or said. It won’t take him long to start texting back again. 

27. He didn’t get your message

Before you assume that he’s ignoring you, make sure that your message was delivered. If he’s logged out of social media, he won’t receive your message until he logs back in. When you are in a location that has poor cell phone service, your text message won’t be delivered. Make sure that the message circle is filled in. That’s how you can tell if a message was delivered or not. 

It’s important to keep in mind that just because a message is delivered doesn’t mean that he’s read it. If he’s busy socializing or working, he won’t get your message until he has time to check his phone. He’ll begin texting back after he sees your message. 

FAQs

Why would a guy suddenly ignore you?

Guys will ignore you all of a sudden for several reasons. He’s ghosting you and doesn’t want to tell you why. He may need space or suddenly want to play hard to get to make you chase him. Sometimes, men are just busy and they are really bad texters. 

Why would a guy ignore your text?

He might not have time to text you back, so he would rather ignore you until he has time for a conversation. Guys are unlikely to text back if they are busy with friends or family. Perhaps he’s in the middle of playing a video game. Instead of focusing on him, find something to do. 

What do you do when a guy ignores your texts?

You move on with your day. Do not double text him. Avoid asking him why he didn’t text you back. Keep yourself busy so that you won’t stress yourself out wondering what he is doing. Go out with friends. Call your family. Binge watch a new series or bake some cookies. 

What to do when he ignores you for no reason?

He probably has a reason, but he doesn’t want to tell you. Be grateful because he’s doing you a favor. Emotionally immature men use the silent treatment and aren’t capable of communicating. Then, keep yourself busy with friends, family, and hobbies so it doesn’t get to you. 

How do you make a guy regret ignoring you?

Let him see you living your best life. Post pictures of you having a blast on social media with friends that are both male and female. Find a new guy to go out to dinner with, and tell your mutual friends all about him. Show him how amazing you are!

In Conclusion

It can be hard to figure out why he’s ignoring you all of a sudden. Watch for clues that can tell you what he’s up to, and try not to let it bother you. What would you do if you were suddenly being ignored?

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Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

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