Do you want to find out who your boyfriend is texting?
Maybe you’re worried that he’s sending messages to another woman?
Perhaps these fears are having an adverse effect on your relationship?
If so, read on because this guide has all the information you need to stop feeling this way.
However, before we explore all your options, I think it’s important to cut to the chase.
If you are worried that your boyfriend has been messaging other women, there’s only one real way to put these fears to bed.
And that is to find out.
That’s why I wanted to tell you about this amazing discreet background checking tool.
This tool can generate a huge database of information regarding your boyfriend’s recent communications history.
You can find out who he’s been frequently communicating with, what smartphone apps he has downloaded, what online services he’s signed up to...and more.
It only requires a few of his basic details to get started, and there’s no way of him finding out you’ve been tracking him.
By using this tool, you can quickly find the truth about what’s been going on behind your back.
Once you know the truth, you can either continue your relationship free of paranoia, or dump him for being a complete and utter love rat. Hopefully it’s the former.
We’ve detailed some other ways to tackle this situation below...
Not only can it be particularly ruder and feel unfair when your man is on his phone, but it can be a cause for concern. Who could he possibly be speaking to that is more important to him than you? It could be his new love interest.
Is your man particularly protective over you going on his phone? Perhaps you just want to check something when you don’t have your phone, but he snatches his phone away and doesn’t let you on it. He might also change the password on his phone and not tell you it so that when he isn’t around you can’t use his phone.
There could be two meanings to this – he is either not interested in you anymore, or someone else on his phone warrants his attention more than you do. No one should come above you if you are a couple, so it can be really hard to deal with if you know your boyfriend is always on his phone, but he doesn’t reply, or his replies are delayed to you.
Have you noticed that your boyfriend has started to leave your presence whenever he needs to take calls recently? He might not want you to hear him talking to his new woman. If he can’t leave to take the call, you might realize that he declines certain incoming calls.
Hopefully after looking at the signs above you might have concluded that your boyfriend isn’t speaking to anyone else. However, if this isn’t the case and you do suspect he is unacceptably speaking to another woman, I have a few ways that you can figure out who she is and what the nature of their conversations are.
There are a few different ways for you to find out who your boyfriend is texting, but I need to tell you that if you can’t be open and honest with your boyfriend, then this isn’t a very healthy relationship in the first place. In a committed and loving relationship, you should be able to share everything with each other and as soon as you see something going wrong, you communicate with each other and try to fix it.
However, I also do understand that you might have once had a loving and committed relationship with each other, but your man has ruined this between you because he is (possibly) speaking to someone else. So, let’s take a look at some of the ways you can figure out if your man is being faithful, or has broken your trust by texting another woman.
This might be hard if your boyfriend has a passcode on his phone that you don’t know, or if he spends a lot of time with it by his side. However, I am sure you will be able to find some time where your boyfriend is not attached to his phone.
When you do, you might want to make sure he won’t be back and searching for his phone straight away. You can’t let him catch you on his phone, or he will accuse you of not trusting him (even if you have a reason not to) and it could start a big argument.
So, you need to be clever. For example, if your boyfriend ever leaves his phone in the bathroom, run in and lock the door. You can run the shower and get in it afterward. You then have a good amount of time in the bathroom, with no distractions to look on his phone. He won’t be able to get in because of the lock too.
You may also be interested in: 3 Easy Ways to Find Out If He's Cheating On You
When you are on his phone, check everything. You will not only want to look at his texts but take a look at his social media messages, his photos, and his emails. You might also want to take a look around and see if he has any dating apps. Also, you could check his internet search history. Who knows, he could have been searching how to hide another woman from you.
Once you have found your evidence, you can take a photo of it with your phone for proof. This way he can’t deny anything when you confront him. If you haven’t found any evidence or you couldn’t get the passcode right on his phone, don’t worry. There are other ways that you can figure out who he’s texting.
When you are done with his phone, it’s crucial that you shut all the tabs that you were looking at on his phone. To do this on an iPhone, double-tap the middle button and swipe up on all the tabs you were looking at. You need to leave the phone exactly where you found it, on the same thing you found it on when you unlocked it.
Let’s take on confiding in his friends first. You will need to have a pretty strong relationship with his friends to be able to speak to them about this kind of stuff. So, if you don’t, or it is a new relationship you are in, I would avoid doing this because you might come off as the ‘crazy girlfriend’. However, if you are close to his friends or you have mutual friends, you could tell them about your concerns. Maybe they know something in the first place and will open up to you about it. If not, they might be able to help you. They might be able to look into your boyfriend’s phone or ask him outright about it. You need to tell them not to mention anything to do with you if they do then it could come back around and bite you. If done correctly though, they might be able to give you some kind of clue or a name.
When it comes to your friends, you can confide in them with absolute trust – they are your friends, not his. However, they could also be useful and help you to find out who it is that your boyfriend is texting. They could ask around and see if anyone knows anything. They might also be able to give you some advice that worked for them if they have been through this situation before.
This is a big invasion of privacy, so you need to be careful if you choose to go down this path to find your answers. You need to be confident that your boyfriend is cheating on you and speaking to someone else. If he isn’t, and he finds out that you used spying software to check what was happening on his phone, he will most likely freak out, think that you’re slightly crazy and leave. This is clearly not the goal.
You can download spy programs that will look at what is happening on your boyfriend’s phone. It might tell you who he is texting, calling or contacting on social media. Some independent hackers can do this for you too. However, these kinds of programs come at a price.
I would only recommend using this as a final resort. If you can figure out who your boyfriend is texting any other way, it’s a much better, safer and less costly idea.
Once you figure out who your boyfriend is texting, you need to find out what the nature of the messages between them are like. If they are flirty or sexual, then you have your answer that your boyfriend is cheating on you. However, he might just be speaking to an old female friend.
You do not want to accuse him of cheating on you if he is simply catching up with a platonic friend he has known since he was a child.
Once you know that you have your facts straight, it is time to confront your boyfriend. It’s normally best to try and stay calm when you are confronting him, otherwise, it might just turn into a shouting match. Try to tell him how you feel rather than accuse and blame him. At the end of the day, of course, you want to make him feel your pain but you also want him to open up about what he has been doing with another woman and why.
After you have confronted your boyfriend, it’s a good idea to take some time out and really think about how you want to move forward. Is he worth spending more time with and trying to get your relationship back on track? Or, are you ready to run far away from him and never look back?
This is really your decision. Don’t let him impact it at all. Cheaters always say that they will change, but the truth is that they normally don’t. He will probably hurt you again.
Your decision will either be to work through it together or to move on by yourself. Whatever decision you choose, you need to stick to it. Don’t tell him that you are leaving to just go running back to him a week later. If you decide to work through the situation together, seeing a relationship therapist might be useful to help you understand why he felt the urge to stray away from you.
If you decide to leave him and move on by yourself, you are going to need to be strong-willed. He will probably beg you to come back to him, he will tell you sweet nothings and make all kinds of promises. However, you need to be strong and let him go. It is really beneficial to surround yourself with people that will support you in the early stages of you moving on as a single person.
Whatever you find out, and however you decide to move forward with the information, you need to make sure you are always strong-willed. Don’t let anyone walk over you, because you deserve so much more than that.
Did this article help you at all? If it did and you liked what you read, please let us know in the comments. We would love to hear from you.
Since your relationship is unique, the most important thing is that you use a tailored approach to tackle your relationship issues.
A generic approach with advice you read online can often even make things even worse!
The best way to get this advice is through someone with experience that is able to listen to the issues you are facing in your relationship…
That is why I highly recommend the website Relationship Hero that gives you specialized advice for your relationship.
In fact, a few weeks ago I reached out to them when I was going through an extremely difficult patch in my relationship.
I had hit rock bottom, and couldn’t even turn to my friends for advice anymore.
After speaking to Lucy (my relationship coach at Relationship Hero) and telling her of my desperate situation, she was able to give me some concrete steps to follow over the following days.
I was able to check in with her on a daily basis as I implemented her advice, and she helped me through every step.
Not only was she super helpful and empathetic, she eventually helped me solve some of the issues had been plaguing my relationship for years.
I can’t thank them enough.
Want him to chase, love and worship you?
Well, you’ll need to have a much deeper understanding of his astrological love profile. My friend and relationship astrologer Anna Kovach prepared this Free Compatibility Quiz to help you discover the secrets of his zodiac sign.