Does your husband prefer masturbating to having sex with you?
Do you see this as a threat to your marriage?
Perhaps you are wondering why he feels like this - or what you can do to make him more sexually attracted to you?
If so, you’re in the right place. This article will provide a wealth of information you can use to strengthen your relationship.
But, before we begin, it’s important for you to carefully read through the following sentences.
Recently, I discovered a primal male instinct that has a big effect on how men will feel about women they meet.
When used properly, this psychological trigger can cause men to experience a deeper emotional connection and powerful feelings of lust.
Before learning this skill, I was endlessly stuck in relationships with men who really didn’t care about me. Now, it’s common for them to become physically and emotionally ADDICTED to me. Read my personal account to find out more about how it works.
It’s known as the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ and can be used to spark initial attraction and reignite long-term partnerships. The crazy thing is: there really aren’t that many people who seem to even be aware about this.
If your relationship is turning stale, I invite you to find out more about how I was able to discover this powerful psychological trigger.
Having said that, my guide on the specific problem of your partner preferring to masturbate over having sex is addressed below.
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Before we dive into the issue, there are a few points I’d like to put across.
First of all, to make sure we’re all on the same page here, let’s accept it - married people do masturbate, and it comes with both advantages and disadvantages. Couples may become more active in the bedroom after getting married, but this certainly doesn’t mean that some habits like masturbating will come to an end. There are various reasons for this, and let’s discuss a few of them.
For example, in an event where one partner has a lower sexual appetite than the other, the former may decide to masturbate to fill their sexual needs. Their reason may be that they do not want to bother the other person and so they decide to do the business (of sexual stimulation) by themselves. This strategy is said to prevent them from making love to someone else, and, in some cases, both parties have an understanding.
In a study on the frequency of masturbation in married men, 87% had masturbated within three months of the research. While some wives knew the full details, others either knew part or didn’t know anything at all. So make no mistake, masturbating clearly occurs within marriages, but it is not always a problem.
However, it only becomes a problem when your husband prefers masturbation instead of sexual intercourse with you so he begins to ignore you sexually.
So if you are facing this challenge in your marriage, here are some reasons why your other half may prefer to play with himself.
The first reason is that it’s so quick and easy to masturbate. Let me paint a picture for you. Imagine you come home from work hungry, and although your fridge is fully stocked to prepare a meal, you decide to order a takeaway instead and save yourself some time and energy.
In a funny way, grabbing some fast-food can be likened to masturbating daily - as minimum effort is required. While masturbating, a man wouldn’t have to think about pleasuring his wife as he has only his pleasure to think about. He wouldn’t have to ask whether she is in the mood, and within a few minutes, it will be over.
Another reason that comes up is that he might be enjoying and watching porn more often. Pornography presents numerous scenarios that are usually not experienced in real life that your husband may find more arousing. The instant arousal that comes with watching porn scenes allows him to reach climax more effortlessly. There might also be something in the porn that excites him more than being with you does.
Studies have shown that masturbating is good stress relief, and maybe your husband might be too stressed to touch you. It is known to release endorphins (happy hormones) into the brain, which sometimes bring relief from pain. Your husband might find it too tedious to make love to you and so he takes the easy way out.
The presence of an underlying issue can also be attributed to your husband preferring to masturbate instead of sexual intercourse with you. Problems like erectile dysfunction, ejaculatory incompetence, and premature ejaculation can affect your sex life and marriage.
It can be quite embarrassing and uncomfortable to talk about, and your husband might not be ready yet. In this case, he would instead pleasure himself than risk dissatisfying you while making love.
Unfortunately, some unavoidable marital issues are likely to arise if your husband would rather masturbate than make love to you.
Rest assured that even though your husband might not wholly stop masturbating, these steps will help to bring his attention back to you. The most important thing is not to blame yourself for his actions but instead take the initiative to enhance your intimacy and lovemaking routine.
He might be having physical issues like erectile dysfunction, low testosterone, and circulatory problems. Other emotional problems like stress may also be the cause. He might even be feeling a lack of connection in the relationship with you, which may lower his desire to make love to you.
One clear sign is when he starts avoiding you, and the time he spends with you reduces. Also, he will quickly get offended with you and start comparing you with others. You will no longer be the person he speaks to and will start keeping secrets from you.
Your husband may be going through some problems and may intentionally or unintentionally reject. He might also not be happy with himself, or the relationship or other unresolved issues that he has not communicated with you. He might hold off on asking you for anything and hence stir further feelings of rejection in you.
One way to make sure that you are not obsessing over your husband redirect your attention to other interests. When you are idle, your thoughts will inevitably default on your marital issues. If you’re thinking that your husband is only nice when he wants something, you might be coming on too strong at a time when you both need a bit of space to yourselves in the relationship.
A man can become distracted by other things in his life, such as work, to the extent that making love is the last thing on his mind. Health and financial issues might also get in the way of bedroom intimacy and cause him to abandon it altogether.
Marriage, and everything it represents, must be enjoyed by both parties involved. Hopefully, the information provided gives you more insight into what the real issues are when masturbation gets in the way.
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