Are you sick and tired of longing for your absent boyfriend?
Are you wondering why you’re experiencing so much sadness while he’s gone?
Perhaps you’re looking for a way to clear your head of these feelings?
If so you’re in the right place. We cover all this in the article below.
However, before you dive into this extensive guide, you need to read the next few sentences carefully.
I want to tell you about a little-known aspect of male psychology, which has a dramatic effect on how men feel about the women in their life.
If you can learn to activate this psychological trigger, it may well serve to make him miss you a lot more.
Perhaps it’ll become a catalyst that convinces him to see you more often...
In many cases, it can be the difference between him seeing you as ‘a fun girl’ or as the woman he OBSESSES over (read my personal story to learn more).
It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and learning about it transformed my fortunes in dating.
It would appear that every man holds onto this way of thinking, and it’s so easy to trigger once you know how.
If you’re hoping to make your relationship stronger and more secure, click to discover how I learned to use The Hero’s Instinct.
The guide below on missing your boyfriend is packed with useful pointers too...
It’s important to talk about why we miss our boyfriends and why it might seem like it’s always happening. This topic is good to discuss so that you don’t have to feel alone in your pain.
When you first realize that you always miss your boyfriend, you might also pick up on when this is happening. These situations will not apply to everyone, but they are pretty common.
Naturally, you will miss your boyfriend when you are apart for long periods of time. This might happen when one of you goes away to school or if you travel. In most cases, the longer that you are apart, the more you will miss each other.
Another instance in which you might miss your boyfriend is if you are busy with work or school. A major schedule change can be tough when you’re in a relationship and can result in you missing your boyfriend more.
You could miss your boyfriend shortly after you last saw him too. For example, perhaps you went on a date with him and feel lonely or sad when you go back to your house. This simply means that you would like to spend more time with him.
Sometimes, you might even miss your boyfriend when you’re spending time with him. I’ll discuss this in more detail in the next section.
One unique time when girls miss their boyfriends is when they are physically with them. This can happen when you’re right beside them watching a movie or when they’re across the room talking to a friend.
If you haven’t felt this way before, it’s totally okay. If you have, that’s okay too! I know that I have felt these emotions from time to time.
It can be confusing and even frustrating to miss your boyfriend when he’s with you. It can be hard to understand these emotions. Just know that you are not alone in these feelings. Lots of other girlfriends feel like this about their boyfriends!
It’s not totally clear as to why you might miss your boyfriend when you’re spending time with him. It likely has something to do with the romantic feelings you have for him and the way that you enjoy his presence.
You might be anticipating the end of the date as well. This can lead to sad feelings about your boyfriend leaving, which can seem a lot like missing him.
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Rarely is it a bad thing to miss your boyfriend. We will get into that later, but just know that missing your boyfriend is only harmful if you experience serious negative emotions about it.
In general, if you miss your boyfriend, it can mean one of the following things:
For you personally, your reasoning for missing your boyfriend might include a combination of those reasons, depending on the day or the situation. You might even have some different reasons.
These are simply the most common ones. Many factors go into our emotions, so it’s important to note that not everyone’s are going to be identical. Figuring out what missing your boyfriend means for you personally can help you to handle your emotions.
Keep in mind that everyone is different and has their own unique responses to situations. There are a few main feelings that are associated with missing someone, including:
You will probably find yourself thinking about your boyfriend a lot. I know that when I miss my boyfriend, I think about what it would be like if he was there with me. This could be as simple as eating dinner or more complex, such as a vacation.
If you miss your boyfriend, you will likely know it by the way that you are feeling.
It’s not bad at all to miss your boyfriend! You should monitor the way you’re feeling so that you don’t get too upset. If it’s making you angry or sad often, you might want to make some changes.
Missing your boyfriend shows that you care and that you value him as a person. This is important in a relationship and can help you to know that you really want to be with him.
If you are able to manage these emotions appropriately, don’t worry about them being bad!
The real problem arises if you’re feeling too emotional. Monitor yourself to make sure that you aren’t feeling too sad frequently. If you notice that missing your boyfriend is making you feel awful, you should re-evaluate the situation.
As mentioned briefly before, you need to be aware of how exactly you’re feeling. If you’re noticing extreme loneliness, depression, anger, or frustration, missing your boyfriend can be bad.
If you begin feeling this way, it’s a good idea to talk about your feelings or to journal about it. It can be helpful to distinguish whether these feelings are a result of you missing your boyfriend or something else going on in your life.
It can be a good idea to talk to your friends about the feelings that you’re experiencing. They might be able to notice if you seem sadder or angrier than usual.
As long as you aren’t telling him constantly, your boyfriend would probably like to know that you’re missing him. If he responds negatively, you may want to discuss that.
In the past, my boyfriends have always responded well when I have told them I miss them. They usually said it back to me too. Sometimes mentioning it even led to us making plans, which is what I wanted anyway!
Give it a try and see what happens. If he says it back, you shouldn’t have much to worry about. Saying that you miss each other can inspire some conversations about how often you’re seeing each other and more!
If you feel like you miss your boyfriend too much or just want to get him off your mind, there are plenty of ways to distract yourself. These ideas can be really helpful if you know you aren’t going to see him for a while or if you are feeling extra lonely one day.
By keeping yourself busy, you will be able to focus on your obligations instead of worrying too much about your boyfriend.
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When you’re missing your boyfriend, it’s okay to be sad or upset. It’s very important to let these feelings exist. Don’t try to push them away, because they will only come back stronger.
You should find a healthy way to deal with your emotions. For example, when I’m feeling emotional, I like to write in my journal or meditate. Some people like to go outside. Others listen to their favorite type of music.
The possibilities are endless. Find a way to handle your emotions without pushing them away. You may have to try a few different strategies before finding the one that’s best for you.
Also, don’t be afraid to cry. It will probably make you feel better afterward!
This depends on the people involved and their feelings. Some people miss their boyfriends more after seeing them. Others “get their fix” and are better after spending some time with their boyfriends.
This could even change for you based on the day and how you’re feeling.
In my experience, it seems like seeing my boyfriend helps me miss him less. I usually miss him more when we’re apart for long periods of time.
Try seeing your boyfriend more often and see if that helps you to miss him less. If not, experiment with some other ideas, such as video calls or texting more often. This can be beneficial when you can’t see each other as often as you’d like to.
If you’re in a committed relationship, this may not apply to you very strongly. If you know that your boyfriend is definitely interested in you, you probably don’t need to be told that you’re missed.
Otherwise, you can simply ask. It can even be said in a flirty way with a wink via text.
Another way to tell whether your boyfriend misses you is to tell him that you miss him. From there, he has few response options. This can be good and bad. He will likely tell you that he misses you, which may or may not be true.
You could also start a conversation about how you want to spend more time with him. If he agrees or tries to make plans, that’s a good sign.
Since missing someone is a feeling, it’s hard to know how strongly someone else misses you. You will have to make this decision based on what he says to you and other hints like that.
If you think that your boyfriend doesn’t miss you as much as you miss him, it’s a good idea to start a conversation. Explain to him that you feel this way and tell him why. Be cautious so that it doesn’t seem like you’re blaming him.
From there, he might reassure you or explain why he doesn’t show his feelings as much. This can be a good way to ease into a discussion about spending more time together.
If he doesn’t seem to care about you missing him or isn’t bothered by the fact that you haven’t seen each other in a week, this could be a bad sign. Talk to him about the relationship and try to find out more about his feelings.
If you think that you and your boyfriend should see each other more often, you should definitely discuss it. If you don’t bring it up, he won’t necessarily know that it’s an issue and that it needs to be talked about.
You know your boyfriend best, so choose a strategy based on his usual responses and his personality. If he is a little stubborn, be prepared to work a bit harder to come up with ideas.
In most cases, you can simply ask to hang out more often. If your boyfriend feels the same way that you do, he shouldn’t protest or have any issues with this.
You can also explain how important it is to you that you see each other more often. If he cares about you and wants the relationship to be successful, he should agree.
If things are getting too heated or it seems like he’s upset, give it a rest and try again another time.
Try to stay focused on showing him why the issue is important to you. For example, maybe you feel like seeing each other more often would help you grow as a couple. Having a variety of solid reasons will help.
When you miss your boyfriend, you would probably like to see him in person. A date or hanging out with a group of friends might sound nice.
Unfortunately, due to a number of complications, such as distance or conflicting schedules, this isn’t always possible.
Luckily, there are plenty of ways for you to communicate and “spend time” with your boyfriend from afar. Here are a few ideas:
None of these ideas will completely replace spending time with your boyfriend in person, but they can be helpful when you are too busy or live far away from each other.
Talk to your boyfriend to come up with even more ideas. Try to stick to ideas that don’t require a lot of time. If you’re too busy to see each other in person, you don’t want to add a lot of extra stress to your lives!
If you have an amazing time with your boyfriend then it is normal to miss him when you are apart. It is probably less normal to not miss your boyfriend when you are apart. However remember that it is good to spend some time apart now and again, remember the phrase absence makes the heart grow stronger.
If you miss your boyfriend even little things like scheduling a phone call with him in the evening to tell him about your day, or texting him a photo can make it seem like you are together. It is also important to remember that spending time apart will make the time you do spend together even better.
If you don’t see your boyfriend often or you are in a long distance relationship it is important to make an effort to spend time together in other ways. Send him cute gifts in the post or schedule a video chat with him every evening that you are apart. This will help you deal with not seeing him that much.
Just because you miss someone it doesn’t necessarily mean that you love them. However, if you love someone it would be unusual if you didn’t miss each other when you are apart. If you have started dating someone and you miss him when he is not around then it is likely that you may be falling in love with him.
If you miss your boyfriend and you know that it will be a long time until you will see him again then it is normal to cry. If you won’t see him for a day or two then maybe there is no need to cry. However, it is completely up to each individual person whether they get upset when they miss their boyfriend.
It’s definitely not a bad thing to miss your boyfriend all the time! It shows him that you care and that you’re serious about the relationship. Just be sure that you aren’t too upset about missing him.
Comment down below if you have any additional questions.
If you miss your boyfriend all the time, give these steps a try:
Since your relationship is unique, the most important thing is that you use a tailored approach to tackle your relationship issues.
A generic approach with advice you read online can often even make things even worse!
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