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Cancerian Man Ignoring Me - (11 Possible Reasons And What You Should Do)

Last updated on June 8, 2022 by Sonya Schwartz

Are you being ignored by your Cancerian love interest?

Are you wondering why he’s gone cold?

Perhaps you’re looking for a strategy to win his attention back?

Well, in this guide, we reveal the reasons why a Cancer man might be ignoring you, and what you can do to turn this around.  

But, before we jump in, it’s important that you pay attention to these next few sentences. 

I want to tell you about a little-known yet powerful aspect of male psychology, which tends to affect how all men perceive the women in their life. 

It’s called the ‘Hero’s Instinct’ - and learning how to trigger this can have a tremendous impact on your luck in the dating game.

Indeed, a man will often experience feelings of overwhelming affection and devotion - because you can make him feel like no other woman can.  

Once I learned how to trigger a man’s Hero’s Instinct, my relationships would become a lot more loving and passionate (read my personal story to learn more).

It’s a simple skill to master, once you know how. 

So, if you’re tired of these frustrating relationships where men really don’t seem to care about you, I’d recommend learning more about how I discovered the ‘Hero’s Instinct’.  

Then, to solve this specific problem with your Cancer, you can read the guide below. 

In this piece, we look at the reasons why your Cancer man could be ignoring you and also what you should do to make him come back to you.

Reasons Why Your Cancer Man Is Ignoring You

One of the typical Cancer man’s best traits can also sadly be his downfall. He is perhaps one of the most sensitive signs of the zodiac and it often his sensitvities that will be the root cause for whenever he gives his girlfriend the silent treatment. Here are a list of reasons that could stem from his sensitive nature that make him ignore you:

You've Hurt His Feelings

The biggest reason a Cancer man would ever have for ignoring his girlfiend is that she has somehow hurt his feelings. Sadly, due to his sensitive nature, this can happen quite often and for a whole host of reasons.

While this can be frustrating, it may make his ignoring you easier to deal with if you at least can understand that his behavior towards you is not meant to be hurtful. It is more that he has no idea how to act otherwise when he has been hurt. If you are in an otherwise healthy relationship, he will know that your intentions were not malicious, so he will be using his quiet time to make peace with it in his head.

Additionally, he could well be giving you the silent treatment because it is his version of recoiling - similar to if you get a snake bite or wasp sting. A Cancer man’s reactions to having his feelings hurt give a similar reaction.

He Wants Some Space

Due to being so sensitive, a Cancer man has many emotions running through his head that sometimes he finds difficult to process all the time. This is only heightened when he is in a relationship with a woman he loves as he is dealing with feelings of lust and attraction in addition to the more negative emotions a relationship can at sometimes cause - jealousy, for example.

A Cancer guy may want some space therefore so that he clear his head and get his thoughts straight. By ignoring you, your crabby star sign of a boyfriend is actually giving himself a time out with the intention of being a better boyfriend when he reconnects with you.

As ever when you have been ignored by the Cancer man you very much love, you will not want it to be repeated. However, due to their emotional state, it may sadly happen time after time. You will need to question therefore if that is what you want or are happy with in your relationship. If not you may need to start thinking about letting him know how you feel.

He Thinks You Take Him For Granted

He Thinks You Take Him For Granted

A Cancer man likes to feel like his feelings are reciprocated in any relationship he is in - especially if it going well with someone that he really loves. While this is understandable- no one ever will want to be in a relationship where they know that they are in love with someone far more than what is returned - it can have the result that you make him feel taken for granted sometimes, however inadvertently.

That is because, even for the slightest reason, they may think that you are not giving back to him all the things that he thinks he provides for you. This can be tough to handle as you may actually really like or love your Cancer guy, but don’t just show it in the way that he wants. Something like that is hard to rectify without talking to him directly, so do think about opening up the lines of communication.

He Isn’t Sure About Your Relationship

One of the most upsetting reasons that your Cancer guy may have for ignoring you is that he isn’t sure about your relationship and is taking time to think over whether it is going well of not. He will be doing so in a thorough and well considered way but that does not make it any less hurtful to you - especially if this relationship is something that you are invested in.

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Remember, even if he is taking time out to know properly whether he will want this relationship to last of not, your feelings and thoughts are just as justified. If you don’t think his behavior is warranted - let him know. Yes, it could hurt feelings, but the silent treatment he is giving you is hurting yours already.

Additonally, remember that you have a lot to give to the right person and that somethings are out of your control. If he does decide after his quiet time that he wants out of the relationship, have confidence in the fact you will find happiness elsewhere with someone else.

He’s Going Through Tough Times Elsewhere In His Life

He’s Going Through Tough Times Elsewhere In His Life

It can be so easy at times to think that just because your boyfriend is not talking to you, it is all down to you as to why. This is particularly true for Cancers as they are the most emotionally charged signs as they are most likely to withdraw into themselves ona regular basis.

It won’t be you that is the cause of his troubles and silence every time therefore. A Cancer guy can have his feelings hurt by others or be under stress that causes him not to talk to you - or anyone else. Something can be wrong in his life that has nothing to do with you, even though he may take it out on you all the same.

As ever, with the silent treatment, this can be frustrating. Especially if he has never thought to tell you what is causing him undue stress or strain. Be confident in your ways as his girlfriend though that your support will help him through it and make things seem a lot better in his life.

What You Should Do When A Cancer Man Ignores You

When a Cancer man ignores you, it can be a very tiresome time that causes you just as much stress as he believes he is going through as well. So what should you do in those instances where he is not talking to you and you want his behavior to stop - and as quickly as possible too. Here we look at what would be the best course of action for you to take so you are back on speaking terms as soon as possible.

Play Hard To Get

Play Hard To Get

If you would like to get back into the good books with your Cancer man, a good idea can be to play hard to get. It’s almost like fighting fire with fire - if he is ignoring you then make sure you are not instantly available to him when he does want to contact you.

By not being available to him at a drop of a hat, the idea is that he does not like being out of control or the idea of not being with you when he would like to be. What is great about using this tack is that when he does come back to you asking for forgiveness, or at least talking with you again, he will think twice about ignoring you again.

By playing hard to get he is faced with a reality of life without you, or you going out with someone else. This is not what a Cancer man will like at all, so he will hopefully do a 180 on his previous actions and be the most attentive boyfriend you have ever known.

Communicate With Him

If you don’t like the idea of playing hard to get and would like to tackle your Cancer guy’s behavior a little more head on, a good idea would be simply to talk to him about his silence. He may believe that his behavior is justifiable but he would also not want to be the one causing you upset either. Unless you tell him outright that he is making you unhappy, he might not know that he is causing pain.

Bearing that in mind, sit down with him face to face so that you talk through the issue that is making him ignore you in the first place. It will probably transpire that it was a misunderstanding or something trivial that you can work through easily, especially if you talk to him about it quickly. If you let his silent antics fester, the situation can become a lot worse than it needs to be.

Start Making Plans Without Him

A good sign to give your Cancer man when he is ignoring you that you will not tolerate this behavior from your special someone, is simply to make plans without him. This is a natural extension of playing hard to get, but it is slightly different due to the fact that you simply filling your life with activity while he comes to his senses.

This can be a very powerful and proactive way of yours to get your relationship back on track and going in the direction you want it to. Things may seem a little strange to you at first of you are always used to doing things with your Cancer man, but you will soon get used to it. Plus it may give your relationship a little more balance.

By having lots on outside of being a couple, you may have a healthier starting point than before your Cancer man started not talking to you.

Give Him An Ultimatum

If your Cancer man is ignoring you, one thing you can do about it is to give him an ultimatum - either stop using the silent treatment or you'll walk away so you can find someone else.

Usually giving an ultimatum in a relationship is one of the things to stay well clear of. However, sometimes, if a Cancer man ignores you, there is very little other room for manoeuvre. You may, rightly, worry that this won't help you get back in his good books as an ultimatum is something that a guy usually cannot stand.

However, by confronting him in such a stark way - you will give him the choice to either massively change his behavior into something that you would be happy with or to break up so that he can starting dating someone who does not mind the silent treatment.

Give Him Space

Give Him Space

Along with playing hard to get and making plans without him, giving him space is a really proactive option to help tackle the silent treatment from Cancer men. A sign like the crab needs timeout to think about their emotions and make sense of them. By giving him the space he needs straight away when he starts not talking to you, he will eventually like the balance of the relationship even more.

This is because he will appreciate your sympathy with his personality traits and he will feel more at ease from you giving him the ability to know he can be himself around you. If that person is a guy who finds dealing with heightened emotions difficult so that he needs time on his own to think things through, then all the better for it.

Love Him More For It

If you love your Cancer man and you would like him to know it - let him know that you're not going anywhere even when he does start to ignore you. It can give him the much needed stability that he needs to know to feel secure in a relationship with a woman.

This is perhaps one of the hardest actions to take when your boyfriend is not talking to you - but if you are serious about this guy, you will need to love him - warts and all. So often with a Cancer man that would mean having to deal with his highly strung character where you may feel he is being overly dramatic.

You do need to respect those feelings however as, if you don't, you are in danger of ridiculing how he feels, and that is never going to be helpful in the quest for a would-be healthy relationship. Respond to his silent treatment with as much love as you can muster and he will take it as a clear sign that you are serious about him and your future together. It may even stop him from not talking to you again in the long run!

My Cancer Man Is Ignoring Me - The Bottom Line

When your boyfriend is ignoring you it can be so frustrating and hurtful that you can often forget to question why he is not talking to you in the first place. However with Cancer men, you can use his sign to be one step ahead and stop those feelings of hurt on your part becoming bigger and bigger so that they cause even more issues in your partnership.

This is a problem that so many couples suffer from who often find themselves angry at a partner for one reason or another and it is that anger that inflames a situation. This is problematic as sometimes issues that arise in a relationship are not necessarily big things, but not talking about them makes them so much larger than they need to be. In turn, if you continue not to address issues, in years to come in your partnership you can find yourself much unhappier than you need to be.

This need not be the case if you know why each other is angry or annoyed on every single occasion. It stops feelings festering and making problems worse. Using astrology and zodiac signs is a good way to nip problems in the bud as you can more fully understand someone's character and personality. In turn you understand why they react to things like they do so much better.

Do you know a Cancer man that is prone to ignoring you when things get tough in your relationship? Do you find that hard too? Please let us know by telling us your story in the comments below. Sharing this article could help others too, so do share it with friends and family who have found themselves in a similar situation with a Cancer guy. Hopefully, by drawing attention to the this sign of the zodiac's propensity to behave lie this, we will help any women who are in a relationship with this emotional zodiac sign.

Do you feel like all you think about is him, but he only thinks about himself?
This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. You have to understand how he is wired. Once you do, you'll find there is a subtle thing you can say that to him that will drastically change how he shows his emotions towards you.

Take this quick quiz that looks at whether he actually likes you or not!

Sonya Schwartz
A hopeless romantic that struggled for many years to find her Mr "Right" and made all the mistakes you could think of while dating. Known for always choosing the wrong guys or messing up relationships, Sonya was finally able to change her approach and mindset when it came to dating which helped her eventually find the man of her dreams and become happily married. You can read more about me here...

8 comments on “Cancerian Man Ignoring Me - (11 Possible Reasons And What You Should Do)”

  1. Hello,
    My 52-year-old cancer boyfriend whom I have been together in a loving relationship for 8 years, recently lost his job and left me arguing that he has no energy for our relationship and he cannot afford to be with me anymore, immediately. He has 3 daughters from a previous marriage and is no deeply stressed. I wrote him a letter saying I will wait for him no matter what state that this is not a break-up but a break.I earn my own money but we need to travel a lot to see eachother.

  2. Love him for it?????? Who wrote this trash? How can the writer be insulting and belitling women Saying love him more for abusing us

  3. Almost 2 yrs ago I reunited with my childhood crush after 30 yrs. after reading this article I do agree that Cancer men are very emotional. We connected on such a deep level. The relationship was more than I ever imagined. It was the happiest we both had been in years. We talked about our past relationships & he was very verbal on many occasions about his ex girlfriend. He seemed bitter about her & their relationship. He talked so much about it that it caused me to pay attention to certain things. I went into our relationship carefree & worry free. I was on cloud nine with this awesome man but after hearing him [email protected] about her so much I began to pay attention. I noticed that she spent a lot of time around his family. She would be at every event. Weddings, funerals, graduations, baby showers, it didn’t matter. I was becoming more & more irritated. When I asked him about it he would get upset & put it on his family. He even got mad at his family & stopped speaking to them for inviting her. I couldn’t understand why he just couldn’t have a conversation with her. 9 months into the relationship nothing had changed with the ex & I felt I couldn’t take it any longer. I told him we needed to talk. I told him how I felt & how I had been holding my feelings inside because I didn’t want anything to hurt our relationship. I admit I was very angry & emotional. He never responded. He listened to me vent & then we hung up. The next morning I waited to hear from him like I normally do & nothing. After sending him a text telling him how disappointed I was that he hadn’t said anything, he proceeded to say that he respected my feelings & he needed time. That was 9 months ago. I have spent the last 9 months texting, inboxing & any other form of communication I can find apologizing for hurting his feelings & asking for forgiveness. I’ve asked him a thousand times to please let me know where we stand. And he says nothing. I mean are we over? Or is he still taking that time? He ignores me but not only me, he has taken this out on my children, family, friends whom he had gotten very familiar & close with or anyone connected to me. He texted me once to let me know he doesn’t hate me & apologized for being “this way” & that was after sending hundreds of messages. We were in a long distance relationship but we took turns visiting each other. Before venting to him about my issue with the ex constantly being around, we had no issues, not even a disagreement. He is the love of my life & we were planning a life together. We talked about getting married & even started planning for it. I’m afraid to give up on him completely because of our deep connection we had & I know he’s a emotional person & has experienced so much pain in his life but how much longer do I put myself through this? It’s torture. I’m stressed about it everyday. Would you agree with me that this is obviously over?

    1. Give yourself a deadline. You've already given him 9 months. Set a date. I like to go in incraments of 3s. 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months. Any number is ok. I would do a deadline. After that deadline, I move on and cease communication. Hard but True

    2. I’ve been in a similar ordeal with a cancer man. Although we’d only been talking for a short time I asked a male friend for advice concerning our exchange. I won’t call it a relationship because we had not even gotten that far. He was very offended by my actions and literally cut me off. I repeatedly apologized but he refused to forgive me. He then said that it was no hard feelings but he’d prefer to focus on his career instead of a relationship. I had to respect that so I moved on. In my experience when a Cancer man makes up his mind regardless of how they feel about you he will stick to his decision. I’m sure he doesn’t hate you he just doesn’t want to deal with the emotions of the situation and he will move on to someone else.

      1. Wow! So many people can relate with me. I thought I'm the only one who's been ghosted by a cancer man. I don't understand why they are wired this way, but believe me, if you matter to them, they will contact you again after 4-5 days. But if they don't then it's their loss, not yours! If you've done your part then let it be.

  4. I feel like I am the someone else (a LEO) woman and I hate it! I know I?have a healing nurturing spirit that this cancer man is use to but what ever I do for this man goes very unnoticed and he's very disrespectful, very negative in his speech and his thoughts, he appreciative of nothing, and when he does say "Thank you" it's always out of sarcasm and a ego! He does not satisfy my body, mind, nor soul but being a Leo, I'm a faithful person, I don't believe infedelity, I'm loyal in my belief AND that makes me angry because he's a loose cannon if I say that I'll leave and he can find his happiness especially if it's not with me, did I mention? Oh by the way he is a boring lonely individual even when he's around positive, outgoing, happy people! He's the killjoy and I'm very exhausted, tired, and aggrevated with this grown ass boy. He's a hard worker and speaks well of him providing for his family, now I want him to find that family he's looking for because I don't like grudgful giving and complaining because that's all he does. He very insecure, been?cheated on in 2 previous relationship and I gotta come after that! He's a miserable man and I've never experienced this before. So if you have split up with this type of cancer man RUN JENNY RUN!!!!! You're better off and much happier WITHOUT him!!!!!

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